Loss of my "mojo"

[littleraysofsunshine]

How do you keep the sex life alive when you have a busy family life (three small kids under 4.5) tiredness and lack of body confidence.

How do you keep it exciting? Romance? Sex life? Instead of scheduling time etc.

I just seem to have list interest in actual sex.

It's not my dp. He's gorgeous, love of my life but I just think not exciting things about it? It's as if it's turning into a chore.

Not all the time. Just sometimes.
He has a high sex drive, I use to before kids... Then just lack of sleep, confidence and overall not ever having the confidence for the "kinky" stuff.

My three close friends giggled at me as I have never owned a "naughty draw"!!!

You give it more time. I'd say till your youngest is over 2 years old - about the stage I submerged from a 'mumsy' state of mind and wanted to find my individual self more. Also don't get into feeling pushed to satisfy a need. He should understand if not up for it as often as him. How to get out of mumsy mode quicker? Make sure he looks after the kids sometimes while you go out and do your own thing. If you feel supported by him the urges will likely return with the appreciation for the help he gives you.

Your youngest needs to be 5 before the cloud lifts.

WTF is a 'naughty draw(er)' and why would anyone especially someone who has dc who are into everything - want to own one?

Franky, acquiring/maintaining a secret cache of 'kinky' items sounds like a chore to me as my imagination doesn't need 'props'

As Smorgasbord has said, carve out some time for yourself. Even a candlelit bath after kids have gone to bed, drifting off to some sunny beach while lolling in the suds, and using the time for all of the primping and preening you used to do before the dcs came along, should go some way to getting you out of mumsy mode and yay to going out and about for a few hours while he looks after the dc.

If you can run to a babysitter schedule a regular date night with your h, take yourselves off to the cinema/restaurant/pub for the evening and make it a rule to talk about anything/everything EXCEPT your home/the dcs.