I'm new and would like advice

[mummadenman]

Hi sorry I'm new to this . I left my husband in sept due to domestic violence which I didn't push charges on (I wish I did now ) and admitted it all 6 month too late for police to do anything so he is divorcing me for unreasonable behaviour I couldn't contest it as I have no money as had to go to court to get an occupational order to get him out of the house and me and my two children one disabled back in our home. He refused to pay any bills so I'm paying then all. He emails me nasty stuff every day and police won't do anything. He's now taking me to court to force the sale of our house I'm scared as don't have money for a solicitor and just don't know what to do. If we go to court I don't know what's reasonable to push for as im a carer for our daughter I can't get a mortgage so I'm scared where me and my girls will live etc. I'm trying to keep strong but it's so hard. Any help appreciated . Thank you

That link posted by turnItIn. to what should be Women's Aid - not womans aid - is coming up dodgy for me. I've just spent 20 minutes trying to get my browser working again. Ios using Safari
Am going to report but just to warn others.

So sorry to hear what you're going though.

Contact Woman's Aid or the CAB - they will be able to help you.

I wonder what happened there! I only copy and pasted it from my iPad. Sorry!

TurnItIn, I just wanted to warn others about the link, was going to suggest you check your own device too but as it was also an ipad you should be ok. I tried to hover over your link first but ended up tapping it. When I went back to hover again the link was to 'womansaid.org.uk'. Oddly 'womansaid.org' does take you to the genuine site.

For the op, the genuine link, which I couldn't post last night is :
www.womensaid.org.uk/

Good luck OP.

There is still Legal Aid for family cases involving domestic violence. You could try to see a solicitor. There is a "find a solicitor" link on www.lawsociety.org.uk/. You put in your postcode and search for family solicitors near you.

Also, have a look at the CAB website at...

www.citizensadvice.org.uk/

and look under Family.

Hopefully you've managed to speak to Women's Aid now, but just to reassure you, the financial side of a divorce is totally separate from the "fault".

So, just because he is divorcing you for unreasonable behaviour (so unreasonable of you not to stay to be abused!) doesn't mean you will get less. In fact, because you have disabled children, you are likely to get more, as the court will usually ensure that the children are well provided for, and obviously, for a disabled child, this may mean lifelong care.

mamma firstly - don't believe what he says. just because he says stuff like he can force you out of the house doesn't mean that this it true.

Contact WA asap. They might even go to court with you if you are representing yourself. Are you eligible for legal aid?

Some solicitors will do free 1st meetings. Find one in your area that will do this to get advice.

There is lots of online help to get advice.

Re the "fault" bit...doesn't matter too much in the scheme of things and makes absolutely no difference to any finance splitting and maintenance. Have you applied to the CMS for child maintenance?

and keep any nasty emails - just stick them in a separate folder

Is he forcing the sale of the house you are living in? He'll struggle to do that without sorting our all the finances. Any matrimonial assets can be frozen until all finances are sorted anyway so if you are/are not living in the house you can request this.

Not much to go on but hth

Sorry this is coming out in bits and bobs...if he has a decent income and you have nothing and are struggling - along with applying to CMS for child maintenance you can apply for interim spousal maintenance (google/see solicitor regarding this)