Would you let your in laws

[angelinaj]

Take your 2.5 yr old for a birthday party in a busy Brewsters type pub with play area. Stick an apron with an alarm tag on her then let her run round unsupervised.

Tbh there are so many sicko people out there i was worried that someone could snatch her take off this bloody apron thing and do the worst.

I didn't let her go and now am being accused of being untrusted with DD. They would have sat back and just let her run round without watching her or where she was going. I don't have a good relationship with them at all and didn't do this to be mean but i never let her out of my sight generally certainly not in a busy pub.

Look at the Bulger boy, Holly Chapman, Jessica Wells etc...

Was i unreasonable??

No. DS1 is 2.7 and I trust my ILs with him implicitly - they wouldn't do this, nor would my parents, nor would I.

An apron with an alarm on wouldn't stop him running out of the pub and under a car. I woud be fecking livid with anyone who let DS1 dash about like that - and that's quite apart from him being molested (which I actually think there's not a high risk of - unlike a car park incident ). I think it's very irresponsible of them and if I was you, I wouldn't be happy for them to have DD again.

No, I wouldn't let them do this. I would expect that if they wanted to spend time with her then they would want to take her somewhere where they could have fun together....the duck pond, the park, the zoo or just splodging about with paint at home with a slice of cake. Letting her run wherever suggests they are happy to sit back and relax without having to care for her.

Yeah bit shitty. They are acting like the walking wounded and my name is sh....t now. Hubby thought i was overeacting??????
Not happy and is sore subject in our house. He is standing by me thought. Caused no end of a row

SIL lets her boy of 3 run round as an when he pleases. Last summer we went to Cardiff and she sat on the platform smoking and he was just left to stand there unwatched. Fair do he is very good and has never given her any trouble but my DD is just not like that and can be very unpredictable. They seem to think she can be treated the same as him

No your not unreasonable... AT ALL.

i think you were right, apart from the fact i cant stand my inlaws and dont trust them with dd, i wouldnt let her run around unsupervised in a busy pub, she would be climbing on tables, and she would most definately run in front of a car given the chance.

She is just a baby. SIL got married not so long ago and we all ended up in this particular pub. Step MIL puts on an apron on DD and said "Off you go then, she will be ok in here with that on" "Go and play with C.... " I looked at her and took DD to the play area and sat and watched them play. I was horrified she would just let her go off by herself. The play area is quite a distance from where they were sitting. Can't trust them at all.

sorry im being really dim, but in what way is an apron a substitute for actually watching her? btw this is exactly the sort of thing my inlaws would do, infact mil runs a pub, and the 1 time i took dd in there, she gave my then 5 month old dd to a bar man id never met before while i was in the toilet, he had taken her out into the kitchens to show some other staff, to say i were slighty pissed off is an understatment!

They are always makeing comparisons between her and SIL Boy. Questions such as "Isn't she potty trined yet" Me: "No we are taking it slowly" Her: "Oh well she has always been late doing things hasn't she" makes me out to be a bad mother. Glad really it has caused a row and they are not speaking to us. Won't have to put up with their crap

poor you, i could have written your posts though, so you have my every sympathy, hopefully they wont ask to take your dd anywhere again, or at least till shes older.