Found out 5 weeks ago today that my DH was having an affair with someone who lives over 2 hours away (he met her through work). We've been together for nearly 10 years and married for nearly 7. Have two DD's (the eldest is from my first marriage) Basically the story is he went away on a work conference at the beginning of January for 3 nights. I saw a pic of him on Facebook with a woman who had her arms around him (not OW) and I text him just asking "who is that woman draped all over you??" he didn't text me back for ages and then just said it was so and so and didn't I think he looked uncomfortable? I suppose he did look a bit uncomfortable. Anyway I could tell there was something not right after that so on the Friday when he was due to come home I texted him in the morning and said basically that I felt there was something not right and he then text me back saying that he didn't know if he felt the same way about me anymore and he needed space and then switched his phone off! Needless to say I was utterly shocked! I tried ringing him but it kept going to his voicemail. Anyway he came back that night and said that he wanted to go and stay with his mum and dad for a while. He went the next day. I was devastated. Anyway we spoke about it and he said that we hadn't been getting on and I didn't show him much affection (I didn't I suppose but I work fulltime and have 2 kids plus we are living in a small bungalow so things had just got on top of me). He also said that he was upset after we'd been away for our anniversary back in August because we didn't have sex! I said to him that it was nothing to do with him it was because I was feeling a bit low about myself and why didn't he talk to me about it at the time?? Anyway he said we would try a trial separation but he was still coming round to see the kids BUT he would be all over me as well and because I wanted to show him I wanted him I gave in hoping that he would see sense and come home so we were still having sex. Anyway I had this nagging feeling that there was definitely someone else so 5 weeks ago I logged onto his emails and found an email confirmation for a hotel booking made the night after his birthday back in March which he had forwarded on to her. I was absolutely heartbroken. I emailed her to tell her that he had also been having sex with me (he had even had sex with me and her on the same day on one occasion!!) when I confronted him he knew that I would not take him back and proceeded to tell me that he liked the OW and he had feelings for her and she makes him happy. They are still together. She is also married but separated - I don't know if she finished with her DH for mine or not.
The thing is even after all this I still feel really down about it and miss him! Which is ridiculous!! I just wanted to hear from people who have been through a similar thing and help me take my mind off thinking about him and her together!! Luckily as they don't live near each other they only see each other every other weekend when DH doesn't have DD's but I am thinking about it all the time when I know he's with her 