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Is this teasing or banter or what?

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bluecheque4595 · 11/05/2015 14:18

Dont know how to respond to someone at work. He is a client and is younger than me, I am married and in my 40s he recently send me a text about our early morning work meeting joking that he would see me in his dressing gown period I just texted back a :-) but now wonder if I should have ignored it.

Then when I was talking to him about work and how to get him to remember to do something work-related he suggested that I should pinch him. He is a jokey guy and a bit of a jack the lad but I don't know how to respond. I just changed the subject and went back to talking about work. My work is on a one-to-one basis and I have always said to myself that if I did not like a client I would get rid as other people are available to do my job but I don't know if I am massively over thinking this one. I am completely unused to people flirting with me. I am very professional at work and quite boring and I try to keep Smalltalk to a minimum. Any advice on what I should say or do? Is it normal?

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Twinklestein · 11/05/2015 14:20

It sounds totally normal to me.

thetroubleis · 11/05/2015 14:22

A joke, dressing gowns aren't really related to sex in my mind, more lazing around.
Smile

bluecheque4595 · 11/05/2015 14:25

Good point.

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molyholy · 11/05/2015 14:26

Doesn't sound anything out of the ordinary to me. He's not saying 'I will see you in my dressing gown with my meat and two veg hanging out' or 'pinch me on the arse'.

Just stay in professional mode, he will soon get that you don't appreciate what he will presume to be 'light hearted banter', in working relationships.

bluecheque4595 · 11/05/2015 14:32

Thanks. I do tend to overanalyse. And I have an overactive guilt complex.

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AyMamita · 11/05/2015 18:35

I am very professional at work and quite boring

You didn't need to tell us that Grin

Don't worry, it sounds totally fine. He's just being jovial/informal.

hiccoughybump · 11/05/2015 18:36

I agree, sounds friendly and not particularly sexy!

bluecheque4595 · 11/05/2015 18:58

I will continue to monitor the situation!

I just meant,I am boring cos my job involves a lot of risk so I tend to be very serious at work and quite dull. I dont overshare about my personal life, I dont flirt.

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AyMamita · 11/05/2015 19:12

Yes I got that, wasn't saying you are generally a boring person Flowers I have a friend who's the same. Lawyer, very buttoned-up and serious to those who don't know her well. Her colleagues would be AMAZED to see her on a Friday night after a bottle glass or two of Wine!

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