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ewwwwyuck · 10/05/2015 21:48

Totally shamed about this and if nc doesn't work, I'll be gutted.

So, I have a few funny little spots down below. I am pretty sure they are genital warts.

So, that's grim, gross, I'm upset and feel soiled.

But the other thing is this - I have had a boyfriend for the last 2 years, I have been totally faithful. Does this mean he hasn't? I dread that this is a possibility because I actually do trust him and it would be a catastrophic misjudgement on my behalf. I would be so gutted.

So, could it have laid dormant in me for 2 years plus?
Could he have passed it to me as he had it dormant (and didn't know/did know - more awful contemplations)?

Also, I just don't even know how to bring this up with him. The shame is intense because I don't know where it has come from - if I've put him at risk, I'll be equally disgusted.

Something I don't understand is I had 'some swabs' taken only a few weeks ago and everything was clear. Maybe that didn't include herpes?

If you know anything about this, please share, I'd be very thankful.

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ewwwwyuck · 10/05/2015 22:38

Oh god, I have to put vinegar on my fanjo now don't I? Sad

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TokenGinger · 10/05/2015 22:42

Sounds like a Saturday night special on Blackpool seafront!

Go season your daisy and report back to us x

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ewwwwyuck · 10/05/2015 22:46

Well, please try not to imagine the scene too vividly.

But white vinegar applied and no change to small white spots. Certainly not a startling effect.

Is this like, real science and stuff?

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TokenGinger · 10/05/2015 22:52

Proper science.

I think we could probably start lecturing in universities.

AnyFucker · 10/05/2015 22:53

we have an ology

I still think you should get checked out though

TokenGinger · 10/05/2015 22:54

Vinegaronfanjology.

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ewwwwyuck · 10/05/2015 22:57
Grin

I will get it checked out, I promise.

But fanjo doom mongering less significant right now, in part due to vinegaronfanjology.

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gamerchick · 10/05/2015 23:03

Vinegar to your bits.. Every day is a school day man Grin

What you're describing doesn't sound alarming but I echo and say go for a full screen and get them checked out. Honestly you'll come out feeling better and the staff in the clinics are awesome. I go for a check up every few years just to make sure everything is healthy downstairs.

Try not to screw yourself up into little knots if you're able in the meantime.

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ewwwwyuck · 10/05/2015 23:13

News update: vinegaronfanjology caused a delayed stinging sensation.

Who knew this thread would end up this way.

But thank you again all, for all your time Flowers

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GayByrne · 10/05/2015 23:14

All the best threads end up with a vinegared vageegee...trufact.

AnyFucker · 10/05/2015 23:17

I think of it as like a service for the ole boiler Wink

avocadotoast · 10/05/2015 23:21

I really would just go and get yourself checked out.

I had an outbreak of genital warts a few years ago. The nurse I saw said that they can lay dormant for a long time and flare up when you're run down or stressed - at the time I'd had flu and was going through a stressful time at work, so that made sense.

It is nothing to be ashamed of. It doesn't make you dirty.

If it is warts, they'll give you a treatment that'll clear it up in a week or two. I haven't had another outbreak since.

The fact is that you could have got them from your partner, or he from you, and either of you could have got them from someone else. I have no clue where mine came from but I've been open with partners since.

Oh, and just to reassure you - the strand of HPV that causes genital warts is not the same type that causes cancer. It is really quite harmless.

gamerchick · 10/05/2015 23:25

Heh I think the same AF, like going to the dentist Grin

poisonedbypen · 11/05/2015 08:05

You would know if you had herpes. It hurts!

TokenGinger · 11/05/2015 18:37

OP, how did you get on?

Eekaman · 12/05/2015 03:19

Good luck Op. I'm thinking this is nothing significant.

And as an aside, but more information to MN, I was assured by qualified medics, with ologies and that, that the Herpes simplex can stay in your system, without showing any signs of your infection, for as long as 15 years, and then one day - boom. Genital herpes.

I also learnt that there is no way of checking if you have Herpes unless you are actually having an outbreak at the time of checking.

I learnt all this after my DW presented with the symptoms of Herpes and accused me of giving it to her. She'd had the swab test, we both got talked to by the GP, and when the test came back negative the diagnosis changed - apparently the waxing salon had heated the wax a little too much and she had a few burn / blisters from that. :) Imagine that, a man NOT in a cheating scandal.

NotQuiteCockney · 12/05/2015 07:33

I was basing my vinegar knowledge on things I'd been told by medics. Looking online, it does look accurate, but only as a negative test. (Bump turns white, it could be a wart. Bump doesn't turn white, it absolutely isn't a wart.)

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ewwwwyuck · 12/05/2015 10:17

Well I went to local GUM clinic drop in session yesterday, and there was literally a queue out of the door.

I could start a new thread in politics about Wart politics and the tory bastards.

But anyway, still undiagnosed and going back tomorrow when I'll have the time to stay till seen. Can't wait.

I did speak to bf too. And he was suitably understanding and not repulsed by my (possible) diseased status so that's a relief.

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UterusUterusGhali · 12/05/2015 10:24

Sounds like a retention cyst tbh.

Mumfun · 12/05/2015 12:38

And for further MN info you have any queries on herpes this site and information line are good : www.herpes.org.uk And it is possible under certain conditions for herpes to be tested for without sores being present. But most GUM clinics wont want to do it. BUt I know someone with no symptoms who was given a blood test by a sympathetic GUM clinic and it showed that he carried types 1 and 2 which meant he did have genital herpes. If he had just showed type 1 it would have been likely that he just had it in the mouth area

Noneedtoworryatall · 12/05/2015 14:08

Op, it is no nice to say diseased status.

If they are warts they will feel like hard lumps and they are whit in colour.

If you ask them to freeze them off they should be able to do it.

They will then turn black and drop off.

Best of luck!

Noneedtoworryatall · 12/05/2015 14:11

Also, the area where the wart is might tingle.

AnyFucker · 12/05/2015 14:31

op, I think it should be clear to you that there are people contributing to or lurking on your thread that are suffering or have suffered from some of the complaints described here

I know you are joking but "diseased status" doesn't show much consideration for the people that have given their time to reassure you

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ewwwwyuck · 12/05/2015 15:54

Point taken on that comment.

I do not want to diminish the affects these things have on people at all. Indeed although I was being flippant, it is a total defence mechanism, because despite not wanting to, I still feel total shame about this and still only half believe that my bf won't be grossed out.

I am still pretty sure they are warts. And even writing that makes me feel disgusting (and diseased) - I don't find it funny at all I can assure you so apologies for how it might have read.

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AnyFucker · 12/05/2015 16:39

Good luck getting it sorted x