Should I give up?

[Lipgloss74]

I've met a man I really like- we have both been single for 2 years before this. He is very busy, and absolutely rubbish at texting or calling. I often feel let down and upset when I ask him out and hear nothing back. What should I do?

Wait until he calls you.

If he's interested he will call and if he's isn't he won't.

You might also want to keep your eyes open for someone else as it doesn't sounds as if this guy is making you happy.

When I'm with him I'm happy but feel slightly insecure when I hear nothing. I understand people are busy but I just don't feel that important to him.

Hi lipgloss74
I know this type well... And I know how difficult it will be to do this but - play hard to get!
Its the only way to catch his attention if he is interested it will make him 10x more interested if you appear less available... If you have asked him out once or more already I wouldn't ask him again, let him come to you now and sit tight... It will be really hard not to just text him randomly, but don't - and when he does text you always give yourself at least an hour before you reply.. If he becomes more keen still keep it up... Good luck xxx

I once got involved with someone who was always busy. Really fell for him, and think he did for me too. But he was a workaholic and was just never around. He would call last minute expecting me to be free. Nothing was ever planned. I decided after a while that the sort of relationship he was offering me was not what I wanted and I ended it.

I know he cares about me but he works too hard and v long hours, he also has his kids several times a week and likes a night out with mates.
I think I will take your advice and back off a bit, he knows where I am and if he doesn't make the effort someone else just might.

Yes, some people are just really busy, their minds are always elsewhere, there are always other priorities (rightly or wrongly). You just have to ask yourself - if this never changes, and it's unlikely to, can you live like this? Can you have a relationship where you're always waiting for a call, always waiting for him to take some initiative? I couldn't.

As hard as it is to hear, I would say give up. Things should be simple..... If you like someone you want to see them, spend time with them and contact them right? If this guy is not contacting you I would ask yourself if this is what you want? Regardless of how he truly feels about you, it seems from your post that the way he is behaving is making you feel bad.

When you meet someone right I think these kinds of questions just are not an issue. So sorry, but you shouldn't compromise on what you are looking for because he is super busy.

Thank you, I think I have to face facts and although I like him I have to step make and let him miss me and see just what he really wants out of this relationship, my friends have already said they wouldn't be happy with his lack of contact.
I am not willing to be unhappy when I'm not with him just for a few hours of happiness when I am with him.