Rant about my selfish bastard p

[midlifehope]

I've come down with the Lurgie. Headache aches cold and sore throat. After buggering off all day yesterday to paint his boat taking my car with him, today he's stuck on a shitty film for ds who is 3 and buggered off to lifeboat training despite me asking if he could take him today. I got up from bed once to secure my car keys and he said - you can't be that ill. Grrrr and I'm pregnant. Fed up of this selfish bastard.

Yeah nice one Rebecca2014. Have you got any constructive thoughts?

Sorry you aren't well. Would it be fair so say that dp is a stay at home parent and does majority of childcare and domestic stuff?

Your post reminded me of this list. If he's like that and you want to stay, you'll have to accept that if you are ill, you'll have to manage on your own.

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Make your daily mantra "It's all about him-or her."
Say you are sorry, even when you have done nothing wrong. He will appreciate your eagerness to make him happy.
Do not get sick or appear needy. Remember your mantra in sacrifice one.
Don't be selfish. Downplay your looks, smarts, and appeal to make him feel secure.
Be charming at all times. Charm never harm should be your motto.
Never start a sentence with "I need you to......."
Know what they expect of you, then, give it to them.
He or she believes in the give and take relationship principle. You give, he takes.
Above all, never age. He will grow to hate you for this.

I think you already know this is your life, he won't change, you can though, you don't need to buy a house with such a selfish person, there's nice men out there who see you as an equal and are kind and caring, it's really up to you.

Self that mantra rings very very true! :-/

'lifeboat training' - this has jumped out as something really quite important he maybe shouldn't miss because of lurgy. (although I sympathise with how rotten you feel). If he's an RNLI volunteer then he has to attend this stuff unless it's life or death - as it is life or death for the people that need them. I wouldn't agree someone is selfish just on this one thing.

But buggering off to paint his boat yesterday - did you ask him to stay home/take child and he refused? Or didn't you ask?