Hi.. Feel a bit silly (again) posting things like this - but, it just helps me so much talking about it! So thank you in advance for those who take the time to comment
Been with my DP for a year and 4 months and have to say, I'm totally in love. Been through some horrible stuff in my past and have big trust issues and if you have ready any of my previous posts over the months, you will notice I'm probably pretty insecure, clingy etc. Although I do not show this on the outside to DP.
There's this thing that's really bugging me. I keep seeing FB Messenger messages pop up on his phone from a girl. I can only see the first few sentances and it's generally just chit chat type stuff. The worst was a few months ago when she said she missed him already (he had spent the day at her office location with work instead of his normal one so they obviously work for the same company) and to 'be happy', ranging to then talking about her opinion on 50 shades. They're the only 2 that have been in any way dodgy.. the rest seem to be just chit chat. I haven't actually read the messages in full so don't know the full content and haven't seen or read anything he has written back
Anyway, it really annoyed me tonight. It was my DD's Bday meal and he had travelled an hour to come to it (we don't live together but see each other every weekend, all weekend) and I said something funny and he just halted, looked me in the eyes and told me he was so in love with me. It was a really lovely moment. Then - up pops a messenger message on his phone from this same girl.. didn't see the whole thing but it started "Sorry..... boring day at work blah blah blah" which would indicate to me he messaged her and she was apologising for not replying quickly. That's just a guess of course.
We have a pretty good relationship but are both very individual during the week, then completely together at the weekend. We are openly together on social media so would be easy to see we are a couple to anyone on the outside who didn't know either of us. But - I find it very hard to talk openly.. partly because of me and I find deep conversations difficult and partly because he is very flippant when it comes to conversations and is not a jealous person at all (although if a guy flirts with me in public he will suddenly be all over me in public which I find hilarious)
Sorry for the long post and such a trivial matter - but should I be worried about this girl? I don't want to make, or seem like I am even being confrontational, but it's starting to really bug me with the frequency of the messages. What's also strange is that they're messaging on FB, but they're not friends on FB.. Is that odd?