Has Anyone Tried Relationship Counselling?

[tasha24x]

My councellor suggested trying relationship councselling. Has anyone tried it?

To what end, what is the aim here?. Why was this at all suggested?.

If there has been any type of abuse within the relationship joint relationship counselling is a complete non starter.

Sorry, no no abuse whatsoever. I cheated onr my partner (no sex involved at all) but did fall for this other person.. Anyway i have aince told him the truth but feel no better, if anything worse so my councellor suggested trying couple counceslling as it may help us (mainly me) move forward.

I thought you said yesterday you had called it a day?

it seems to be back on now, we have decided to give it one go!!

Yes, my DH and I went to couples therapy together and for a period also both saw therapists separately in conjuncture with the couples sessions. We were going under different circumstances our relationships was fine, but we thought it would be useful to tackle some issues in our relationship while we were preparing to become parents but I would still recommend it. I was pretty nervous going into it, but found it far more useful than I expected. Something about being able to discuss big scary otherwise taboo topics that I was always too uncomfortable bringing up on my own, but in a safe space with someone else to moderate the conversation, made a huge difference! We ended up dealing with and ultimately getting better at handling issues that had been annoying me or upsetting me for ages but I'm usually way to repressed to bring up on my own!! (i.e., the big things like sex and money). We found that the conversations we had on our own after our session, and briefly checking in with each other before each session to ask what we wanted to go over that week, were just as important as the ones we had in the session. So it was definitely worth it (though for a while the scheduling/bills from three separate therapists each fortnight was a bit of a nightmare. Ay...) If you have something specific to work through and you really do want to make the relationship work, then it could really help you. Your partner has to be on board too though... Good luck!

Best of luck OP. I am following this with interest as we are having our first session tonight. However I am worried now after what fairy has said. I fear we may not be heading into it with the same goal. Hopefully you are and you get the outcome you both want.