Emotional immaturity

[Redwaters]

Hi - I'm wondering really what this phrase means to you, and how you think it manifests itself? Have an uncomfortable feeling it applies to me.

Throwing a temper tantrum when you don't get what you want here and now?

Not being able to cope with day to day hardships and tribulations.

Hm maybe not then:)

I'd think highly strung, can't deal with problems.

The inability to understand how to act and behave like a grown up. Not standing up to your responsibilities and not taking things seriously when they need to be.

Yes the committing. Haven't worked somewhere longer than 2 years, never been in a relationship, sometimes forget important stuff then avoid it as I am scared it'll be terrible. Reward myself with 'treats.'

I'd take it to mean unable to deal with emotions appropriately, both yours and those of other people.

Not meaning to be rude, OP, but that sounds like the regular kind of immaturity. It's not a criticism, I also reward myself with treats! I just mean whoever put the word "emotional" in front of it was maybe using it a bit out of context?

Russell brand.

You're possibly right - it's just that I know no one in 'everyday' life so to speak would describe me as immature. On the contrary I often come across as exceptionally balanced and sensible, possibly even to the point of being dull/boring. I'm just trying to think of how I'd describe myself!

I'm a teacher though so only 2 years per job is unusual. I don't avoid relationships but I've just never had one :)

is good :)

Isn't it a bit like a true eccentric - they'd never describe themselves as one.
I don't think someone properly emotionally immature would ask the question ;-)

I really hope not!

It's hard to explain. I certainly feel that, if I'm not emotionally immature now, I was for a long, long period of time. Things such as telling silly lies, spending money I didn't have, crying inappropriately - all excusable in teenagers but for a woman well into her 20s? Embarrassing to think of!

The problem is it has stunted me in some ways. I can look back and cringe recognise why I behaved as I did but it's still left me with few friends and a lack of belonging in the world.

Brought it on myself I suppose.

I still spend money I don't have and cry in meetings and I'm 32! Is there something you'd really like to do that might be a way of meeting some people? A hobby you could take up or social things you can do with existing friends?

Thanks. I did have counselling, last year, but it's really expensive!

Thanks for suggestions.

You sound as though you lack confidence in yourself rather than being emotionally immature.

Emotionally immature people are selfish, inward looking and lay the blame on others rather than take responsibility for their actions/emotions. "you/they made me hit/shout/angry" "If you hadn't ..."
They have constant dramas/fallings out/moods.

We have all done silly things fallen off tables drunk
You cant change the past,only what you do in the future

Can you explain what it is after coming up to two years which makes you feel like you have to change jobs?

If I were to armchair diagnose I'd say you're afraid of intimacy.

Possibly something in that, although the job thing has been more because I've prioritised my career over relationships if that makes sense. As a result it's been easy to move around the country a lot. Now I'm looking at my life and wondering what is actually in it - not much!

Sounds self pitying. I don't mean it that way. I mean it realistically not pityingly.

Thanks all for being so nice.

I think I have blamed people - my dad mainly - and mum too. When really it's me. I suppose maybe I've grown out of my immaturity. I hope!