Anyone else's ex going through the abusive text phase?

[mrsdavidbowie]

I divorced last month .
I have heard everything from him..every range of emotions. We've gone from " let's end this in a civilised way" to "you're a fucking whore and a gold digger".

Despite saying that gw wants no contact with me apart from necessary text ( fine by me) I am getting emotional crap from him this week ..latest one " are you going to turn the children against me"

Considering he's let them down twice in a week due to hangovers, I think he's doing that on his own.

Ignore ignore ignore. He wants a reaction, to know that you still care. Ignoring him will eat him up inside!

He can't bear it that I am actually coping.

Omg me too. My ex was/is v controlling and abusive and can't stand the fact I try to stand up to him. He hates not being in control and that I actually have a life and can make my own decisions re dcs etc. I get dont talk to me you are a etc etc then next day oh whats the plan for this weekend? Oh I can have them oh no I can't. Seriously unhinged but have learnt over time to totally detach and just ponder his oddness from afar

Yep. Abusive, then acts like nothing has happened. We aren't divorced yet but I'm about to move out of my parents and into my own place with the DC which means he's trying ANYTHING to stop that happening.
It's funny how much less it bothers me now than it did. It does still bother me, but not to the same extent. I'm excited about my new life whereas I don't think he's even moved on a millimetre in 6 months. Tit.

Yes 42 texts an evening on average. Fuckwit.

I completely detached no this ago. And got accused of being cold and heartless.
42 texts? Fuck me

long ago

Yep, he was heinous. I simply replied 'lol, okay then' to every one. He did not deserve serious responses.

Yes that's what I'm doing..bright and breezy responses.
Annoys the helll out of him

He is trying to control you from afar by doing this. This is another tactic in the controlling man's arsenal, he is no different from any of the other abusive men who do this.

Ignoring such really is the best policy; any contact from you is what he really wants. That gives him the impetus to further respond.

If he really does want to see the children (doubtful really) I would arrange all such contact formally through a contact centre.

They are teenagers so just pop round to see him.
He reached a new low last night... Told dd that he was no longer their parent. "I have seen to that"
She came home and said "he's so emotionally immature"
Oh yes.

I'm 14 years separated in sept and I still get texts.

"Give my daughter her phone back"

"I bough her that phone, you have no right to take it off her, give it to her now"

Half the time I haven't even got it. Dd1 is just ignoring him.

I don't reply- haven't for years. Tit indeed.

Oh yes, I'm getting the gamut of emotions at the moment because I have a new 'friend'. One minute he is talking about this fictional wonderful family life we had together (conveniently omitting the beatings and sexual assault) the next I'm the devils whore and the world's worse mother. I keep sending the same response 'yeah but your an abuser X, so why would I listen to you?' He can nonstandard it!

I admit I have done this with my ex! for me it was out of hurt but ignore is the best thing you can do.

42 texts though is