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Would she be offended if I did this?

27 replies

CromwellRegius5 · 04/05/2015 21:45

So, I recently won tickets to a rock concert and there is a girl I know who is the same age as me, lives along with just her mother and she does not really have any friends and she is sometimes bullied. Anyway, she adores the rock band and I was thinking if I slipped the tickets into an envelope and posted it through her letter box with a note 'saying you two enjoy!' (her and her mother), would that be ok. I ask it particularly as this is Mumsnet and a lot of you are well Mums and so would you be ok with that?

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nancy75 · 04/05/2015 21:47

Would she want to go with her mum? Why don't you see if she wants to go with you?

AndHarry · 04/05/2015 21:49

Seconding nancy, it sounds as though she would love it but why don't you ask her to go with you? It's a lovely thing to do, either way :)

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CromwellRegius5 · 04/05/2015 21:50

I could do that, I suppose. I would not wish to impose though. Thank you for your reply by the way!

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DoItTooJulia · 04/05/2015 21:50

Sounds like she's got s new friend! Go together and have a fab time, you sound lovely. Smile

ImperialBlether · 04/05/2015 21:51

Why don't you ask her to go with you?

Kewcumber · 04/05/2015 21:51

I agree with the others - just invite her!

Kewcumber · 04/05/2015 21:52

unless she is 12 - then yes - give them to her mum

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 04/05/2015 21:52

I'd think you were really lovely :) but it'd be even nicer if you knocked on the door and said, "I've won these tickets, it's not really my thing, but I know you like them and was wondering if you wanted to have them?"

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 04/05/2015 21:53

Sorry xpost. If you like them then invite her to go with you :)

nancy75 · 04/05/2015 21:53

You wouldn't be imposing, they are your tickets! Just say something like "I've got these tickets,I know you love this band,do you want to come with me"
I bet she will be thrilled Smile

ShatnersBassoon · 04/05/2015 21:54

If you know her well enough to know what music she's into, it wouldn't be weird to ask her along to something you know she'd enjoy.

Allstoppedup · 04/05/2015 21:56

Aww, OP, you sound lovely! Flowers

ALaughAMinute · 04/05/2015 21:59

What a lovely, kind, thoughtful girl you are!

Do you like the band? Would you like to go with her?

If not, then why not just give her the tickets? Tell her you won them and don't want them. I'm sure she would be very grateful!

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CromwellRegius5 · 04/05/2015 21:59

Thank you for your very kind replies everyone!

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CromwellRegius5 · 04/05/2015 22:04

I really appreciate it!

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CromwellRegius5 · 04/05/2015 22:14

The girl is a really lovely person. And her mother is very kind and lovely as well!

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CromwellRegius5 · 04/05/2015 22:31

She can sometimes be shy (which is understandable considering that she is often very lonely), so I do not want to be overbearing.

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CromwellRegius5 · 04/05/2015 22:45

So, is there anyway I can make sure I am sensitive. Maybe by posting the tickets or giving them to her mother or such?

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DeriArms · 04/05/2015 23:40

What a nice person you sound, Cromwell. I think you should knock on and ask her if she'd like to come with you as you have a spare ticket and thought of her. If she seems a bit flustered or unsure (which she might be if she finds social relationships a bit tricky) tell her to have a think and text or Facebook you to let you know.
Good luck, hope you both enjoy it!

BallsforEarrings · 04/05/2015 23:40

It sounds like she needs a friend more than anything and you sound like the person for the job, you like her and like the same band and you are kind towards her!

You will not be imposing, I reckon it's just what she needs! If you don't want to ask to her face you could send her a note or inbox her asking if she'd go with you since you've won them.

DianeLockhart · 04/05/2015 23:48

How old are you/the girl? I think you should probably just invite her. Very nice of you.

Pancakeflipper · 04/05/2015 23:50

Can you ask her mum if you can invite her?

WorraLiberty · 04/05/2015 23:51

If you want to be sensitive, how about you tell her that you have tickets and ask her if she'd be kind enough to go with you?

You know, so it sounds as though she's doing something nice for you, rather than her feeling as though you're doing something nice for her?

I hope that makes sense? It does in my little mind anyway Grin

Herman1 · 05/05/2015 00:49

I agree with all the other posters, you sound absolutely lovely OP!

littlejohnnydory · 05/05/2015 11:42

I think itwould be better to ask her to go with you than to have to go with her mum.

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