Why am i doing the pick me dance?!?

[Wherestherealme]

When i dont want him to pick me really?

I keep thinking of all the good times and there was some, bad more than good.

I just want him to want me, i put blood sweat and tears into our relationship and for what?!?

Hes a prick i no hes a prick, but still. It was his fault the relationship ended i couldnt take anymore but because the one time i end it thats it all the blame is on me and now i have times where i think it was my fault maybe if i did or said or acted a certain way things would have been different.

I dont know if that makes sense to anyone

You're allowed to end a relationship and I think you'll be glad in the long run. Stop dancing for him now and believe me, he'll want you - he just won't be able to have you.

If you carry on, he'll carry on... be under no illusions about that. Is that what you want or can you shake him off now and find somebody who's actually worth dancing with?

Makes sense to me. I could have written your post.

Don't do the dance. Just don't do it.

I don't trust myself, so I have gone NC (apart from email to sort out a few bits and pieces)

Thanks for the replies.

Its so fustrating because i no that the relationship being over is the best thing for me, but then theres just a little niggle in the back of my mind.

Contact is kept to a minimum just to sort out dc.