Does anyone else think & worry constantly?

[tasha24x]

Hi, Just wondering if im the only one who constantly thinks & worrys about things? Im literally sat here with a headache, I dont stop from the morning until the night, usually come nighttime im a bit more relaxed but first thing in the morning im back to worrying & thinking non stop.

Yep you've just described me!

I wake up with a panicky feeling of doom and am regularly knotted up and tense as a result. I always feel more relaxed come the evening but it starts all over again the next day:(

I'm currently trying mindfulness as it is suppose to be really helpful but its tough trying to block out the constant worrying thoughts floating around in my brain-aarrgghh!

Are there any specific things you worry about, tasha ? Or any recurring theme?

Yes, I do worry about things, but I do my best to try and 'enjoy the moment' and live in the present. Easier said than done I know!

“If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.”

? Lao Tzu

Sometimes I just worry for the sake of worrying. I am currently seeing a councellor at the moment, I saw her yesterday infact & felt great when I left there...this morning im back to exactly how I felt before I saw her. I basically met another man (whilst in a relationship) over 3 -4 years ago now, nothing ever more than a kiss (i had a son who was 1 years old & relationship wasnt great) I told my partner in october & expected the guilt/worry of a secret to fade, if anyting i feel worse now. I have days/weeks where I think about it from the time I wake up to the time I go to sleep. I am mentally worn out & sometimes even look it!!

Today for example Im wondering whether to call it a day as all my mind keeps telling me is "your always going to feel like this, your never going to feel better, you should tell him all the tiny details but even if you do you will steel feel shitty". My mind is just constant I even get suicidal cause I cant bare the thought of thinking/living like this forever.

fruitandnutlover - i tried hypnotherapy, i had 2 sessions, the second one she told me to treat my worries as leaves, scrape them into a pile and burn them....as shes telling me this.....im worrying

So sorry to hear of your problems Tasha, life can be very difficult sometimes. Have you spoken to your GP about how you're feeling? Do you have any friends you can talk to?

yes ive spoken to my gp they prescriped me 20mg citrapram then 40mg citrapram but i still get down etc ??? yes i have many friends too who are all great. i am still with my partner & he is great but there are some things i want to tell him/say but worry i wont feel better for saying them anyway? he knows what he needs to know but unfrtounately i feel like if i dont tell him every single tiny detail...they roll round & round & round in my mind. just stuck in a hole atm. i read peoples stories on here & mine is quite laughable to be honest & even though i know it is i cant help the way i feel :(

I too was going to suggest trying mindfulness.

I have just literally e-mailed the local centre for me, im willing to try anything.

its hard to remember sometimes "thoughts are jus thoughts and not reality"

does anyone else ever feel bad for some thoughts they may have then worry/panic for thinking these things?

he knows what he needs to know but unfrtounately i feel like if i dont tell him every single tiny detail...they roll round & round & round in my mind.

DON'T. Don't tell him, it would be horribly cruel.

If you need to, tell someone else, write it down then burn the paper, or make a thread on MN! But DO NOT rub your partner's nose in what you did, it would be sadistic.

The feelings you describe sound like general anxiety disorder and clearly the citalopram ain't cutting it. How long have you been on the higher dose? Did your GP suggest referring you for counselling? Might be time to try a different tablet if this one isn't helping.

Ive told my friends, family & councellor. Shall I tell you what the little details are? Even though you say not to tell him & I probably know your right, I know I will still want to. Not because I want to hurt him but I feel like im being more decieftful by not telling the truth. Its coming to a point where I feel like im going to have to call it a day if I keep thinking like I do. I currently dont like nights away or holidays with him as I used to feel anxious before I told him about them & worry I still will if we do go again?

I found the councellor myself as ive been waiting since october to hear from one from the gp. the tablets i suppose take the edge off it but at the same time they dont really if that makes sense? you know the saying fight or flight...i currently say no if i dont want to do something out of my comfort zone cause im too scared to feel anxious & worry that is it still wrong that i do feel like i do & that i should feel happy & carefree since i told him....i dont!

If you want to tell me and other people on this thread the details, sure, if it will help you.

The racing thoughts that you describe are very common to people with anxiety. I do think you should go back to the GP and ask them to take another look at your medication. If you don't think the GP you saw previously was any good, ask to see another one at the practise. Make it clear how the anxiety is affecting your life - that you're not doing things because you're too anxious, that it's affecting your family life, etc.

Im open to tell anyone,
myself and the other guy used to tell eachother we loved one another on e-mails etc and face to face - that i feel like is too big to keep from my partner

my partner asked if he put his hands "down there" i said yes " he asked over knickers or underneath" i said "over knickers" which was a lie and unfair to him

he also asked me did i intentionally meet this other guy to go swimming one morning or just bumped into him (sounds bonkers swimming i know) i told him just by chance one morning...that was a lie & i think we went twice rather than once.

i just think there will always be something i feel he "needs" to know.

i will visit my gp, i think your right, ive always been a massive worrier etc but now its getting to the point where the anxiety makes me stop doing since incase i feel like i did before

Okay.

How long is it since you told your partner? ( I think I remember about a year ago, from your other thread?)

Since those days, has he ever asked you for more details or questioned you again on whether you were telling the truth?

If he has kept questioning and asked for the truth, then it would be right to come fully clean.

However if he has not, and you have no intention of seeing this OM again, and you are fully committed to the marriage, I cannot see any positives from you telling him more.

Do you think it's possible that you want to tell him more details because you feel you need to be punished? Are you deliberately sabotaging this marriage because you feel you don't deserve to be loved and forgiven?

I really recommend that you do some quite intense exercise everyday (eg. cycling or running). I can't believe how it helps to put all your worries in perspective. You will feel so much better, sleep better and feel more relaxed (as well as looking toned and radiant!) Please give it a go. Hope you feel better soon

I started on Citralopram OP and it didn't do a lot for me, so I tried other meds. I'm now on Sertraline and it has worked so well for me. I've had the odd time where I've had panic attacks or been overthinking things, but it's nowhere near as bad as it was before.

If I were you, I'd let your doctor know you are not feeling much better and could you try something else.

Also try exercise as suggested by pp, I took out a gym membership recently and it has made me feel even better than ever.

pocket saviour i think you have hit the nail on the head, i do find it hard to accept nice things from him cause i always feel guilty to be honest. i worry the guilt will never fade & i worry way too much about the future. you are 100% correct, my mum said the same thing its like i want to punish myself through him. so wrong i know x

I worry constantly. At the moment we're trying to conceive no 2 and I worry that we won't be able to, I worry how we'll cope with 2 etc etc.
My recurring worry is around something happening to DH or DS.
Things that have helped me:
Maximising sleep where possible
No alcohol
As much exercise as poss
Multivitamins
Mindfulness
CBT (including keeping a thought and worry diary)

The thing is, the citalopram can only help with the symptoms, and won't do anything about the cause of your anxiety. And the cause of your anxiety is the terrible guilt you feel over something that in the grand scheme is quite small, and (I am guessing) a feeling you just don't deserve to be happy.

So you need to deal with the cause.

Telling your DH more about it will not help. You will hurt him, and hurt yourself. What you need to do is forgive yourself and understand you do deserve your DH's love.

If counselling doesn't help, try a new counsellor. Are you having CBT?

Oh, and the worrying? Yes, I catastrophise all the time. Convinced something dreadful is about to happen to someone I love. Certain my kind, loving, patient, devoted, funny and brilliant DP is way too lovely to be wasting his time with me. But CBT and mindfulness keeps the edge off. Hope you find something that works for you.

Try allowing yourself say 15 minutes every morning to worry.. Good over everything.. Give it free reign..then decide that's it until tomorrow morning same time. In the good old days people went to confession to get that kind of stuff off their conscience.. Can you go and tell someone and hear them say..it's over let it go... You are only going to cause hurt by talking about it... You have confessed it to your husband.. That it now

I don't think this is going to help, but an old teacher used to say to us "If you worry you die and if you don't worry you die, so what's the point in worrying?"

If I'm worrying about something, I always just repeat this to myself. Worrying doesn't solve anything, it just makes us feel bad, so I try not to worry about things.