I come from a large family and we are all pretty close apart from the ordinary backstabbing and name-calling that you get in all families, some of us see each other once a year, others a few times a month...it just depends who's at who's house when you visit.
Anyway when I left college I moved in with my boyfriend on a pretty rough estate, we had a son together but had no money at all and loads of problems with the horrible neighbours not to mention the house was basically a filth pit, I was suffering badly with PND and not one of my family members came down to see me except my mum. I think my grandmother came twice (in 2 years) and all she did was call the state of the house and the state of me etc...I was the talk of the family yet nobody cared that I had this awful depression, it was never mentioned whilst I was being pulled to bits.
Anyway I moved and have been in this current house for 6 years now, my grandmother has been twice in 6 years, my aunts, uncles and cousins have never been despite knowing that I am completely on my own now with the kids. so much for close family?
Anyway last new years eve I thought I'd make the effort and went to a new years eve party that my aunt was holding, everything was great at first until my aunt got drunk and then started going on about my old house again, how disgusting it was and how much of a mess I was and that it's disgusting that I never bother with any of the family! I had had a bit to drink too so ended up in tears...some party.
One thing that came out of the party though was that I got talking to my cousin again after a fall out years ago...we had a good natter and agreed to keep in touch.
Anyway by the end of the night my aunt told me to go down the next day and we could chat properly and catch up etc...
The next day my grandmother told me that my aunt had phoned her to ask me not to go as she felt ill, I've not heard from my aunt since.
My cousin added me to his msn and one night we chatted for hours but then he started saying things that were a bit 'off', going on about how great I looked etc and that he had to keep repeating to himself that we were cousins. I felt it strange but carried on talking and tried to change the subject but he kept on with these 'suggestive comments'. I gave up in the end and went to bed but for the next few weeks we chatted on msn for a few hours a night but with this 'suggestive' talk and flirting always creeping in after half an hour or so... anyway one weekend his girlfriend came home from uni and I never heard from him (fair enough!) but then when she went home it continued again until I started to avoid talking to him. Then his girlfriend came to live with him and he hasn't spoken to me since...apart from when she was away one weekend he came looking for me on msn , nice to know WHY he wanted to talk to me in the first place.
I'm just so angry with the lot of them, my aunts are hot and cold with me, my cousins only talk to me when they want something...I have been trying to get some old photo's from my other aunt for months now so I can make a scrapbook for my grandparents for christmas, at first she said she'd help and then she just started ignoring my emails so I can't do it now.
What is it with them?? I just feel like not bothering with them at all.