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Running out of time for a baby? Tell me your stories!

39 replies

styleyourlfe4 · 29/04/2015 21:18

I'm 35 and have started to get panicky that I'm not on the way to having a child.

I have always wanted a family, and I am currently single.

Anyone out there who can give me a happy story... did you have a child late in life? Did you meet someone after age 35 and still manage to have the family you wanted?

Thanks in advance for any replies :)

OP posts:

Yika · 30/04/2015 20:50

I conceived my first (and only) with no problems at all at 43. I have many friends with two children who started around 40.

Flatsfromnowon · 01/05/2015 00:30

I met my DP when I was 37 and had our dc when I was 39. You have time so don't worry :)

angstyaunty · 01/05/2015 06:05

Met DH at 36, DC born just after I turned 40. No problems conceiving. Don't panic just yet! Good luck.

hilbobaggins · 01/05/2015 07:57

Met DP at 42, had my lovely DS at 44! Looking back I do wish I'd been a bit more focused earlier on about finding a partner / having a family. From my perspective you've got plenty of time but I agree that it pays to be proactive about meeting someone.

SandInMySandwiches · 01/05/2015 11:59

I'm 37 and going down the sperm donor route as I won't meet anyone and form a close enough bond any time soon. It's taken me a few years to get my head round but now it feels really right and I can't wait to get started.

drspouse · 01/05/2015 12:06

Met DH at 35, decided to get married at 36, married at 37. Started trying to get pregnant at 37 also. Got pregnant quite easily but had several miscarriages. We are now happily parents of two under-4s through adoption. Married 11 years today.

Just hope I won't become decrepit and useless in my 50s as predicted by many MNers as I will still have one preschool and one primary aged child when I turn 50, and could retire if I wished with two primary aged children (DH will retire with two in primary school even if he puts it off a little).

Only thing I might change about my search for a partner is to be more flexible on age and qualifications. Wasted a lot of time on well-educated younger men when I could have been looking for DH (11 years older, hadn't been to university).

worserevived · 01/05/2015 12:59

I had my two dcs at 40 and 42. I had no problems conceiving or delivering, and they were both big healthy babies.

Lemonylemon · 01/05/2015 13:08

I already had DS, then met OH when I was 43. Had DD at 44.5

MonstrousRatbag · 01/05/2015 16:47

Met DH aged 38. We've got 2 children.

Have your egg reserve and AMH levels checked.

Date. Go on singles holidays, socialise, don't be too prescriptive about what you are looking for in a partner.

goodthinking99 · 01/05/2015 18:36

Met DP at 36 and had DD two weeks before turning 42. It can happen, just not sure you can plan any of it though

Sonofagun · 01/05/2015 18:46

Not my story but I have a colleague who exoecting her first baby.....she will be 48 when the baby is born

neversleepagain · 01/05/2015 21:15

Met dp when I was 29, he was 35. Had twins when I was 33, he was (just) 40.

neversleepagain · 01/05/2015 21:18

My cousin had ivf triplets at 40. Another cousin had dc3 at 43.

MadameJosephine · 01/05/2015 21:44

I met DP when I was 35, started trying for dc at 36, had a couple of miscarriages and some failed fertility treatment but eventually had my gorgeous naturally conceived DD at 41

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