We are moving out of London with 2 children back up north to be closer to grandparents,and because our tiny flat is too small for the four of us. Partner has found a job and I'm going to be working part-time. Instead of 8 hours drive from my parents, I will be 2 hours. The plan is they will come over every week/fortnight and stay 1-2 nights to look after our children and just to see each other. My parents are excited about seeing more of us and happy to help out. The jobs are in a place where we could be anywhere between 10-30 minutes from in-laws. My preferred location would be 10 minutes away as I like the town and am familiar with it from visiting in-laws. I am quite daunted by moving and find the thought of going somewhere I know a little comforting. But I feel guilty that I will be much nearer them than my own parents. I am an only child and my Dad has some on-going health problems though he is ok at the moment. My parents live in a very rural area with no jobs going and my partner doesn't want to live there full stop as says it is too isolated. Part of me wonders if I should just insist on staying in London as it is fairer? But partner fed up with London commute and tiny flat! Am I worrying too much? Maybe my parents could move nearer to me if the time came, though they are very involved in local community. I guess I am jealous that my partner won't have to worry about elderly parents as we will be near. Ironic as they are not fussed about being that near family.