I need some advice ��

[Hondansr125]

Hi everyone. I have just joined in the hope that some of you lovely ladies can give me some helpful advice on this subject.

So, I have recently been dating a wonderful man, he's the sweetest , kindest, most amazing person I have ever been close to in my life. He makes me feel absolutely wonderful and I feel incredibly lucky to have him around me. I have known him for around 12 years.
That's the good bit...
The bad bit...
I'm 28 years old, and I used to date his younger brother when I was 15. A looooong time ago!! And obviously I am way over it! it wasn't even a serious thing as I was only a kid!!
The one I'm dating is so worried about what his younger brother is going to say when he reveals for the past month or so we've been seeing each other quite seriously.
He once mentioned to his younger brother that I stayed in his bed (nothing happened) when I was 18 as I was troubled and he took me in for the evening. (still, back then, always there for me) and apparently he wasn't happy one tiny bit about it and they almost fell out.
Am I to stop seeing him ? As much as i hate the thought of never even touching him again I don't want him to fall out with his brother. I've always been good friends with both for many years, but the one I'm dating now, is the one I've always deep down wanted. I feel awful. And I'd love for some of you to please tell me or advise me what to do or say to make it easier.
Loadsa love xx

My aunt married my mum's ex. They were sisters. I wouldn't worry about it.

How his brother felt when he was 18 is irrelevant, you're all adults now.

How the bro deals with it is his problem. If he still has an issue now he must be quite peculiar unless he still fancies you.

It's certainly not something you should split up over.

This is his problem to resolve with his brother, if there even is a problem after all this time. It was half a lifetime ago.

Have you spoken to him about your concern? There's no need for you to be dwelling on it on your own.

You have to continue with this man. His brother will get over it.

It is hard for him though if you dumped him when you were both young things. Romances when you are 15 can be quite vivid and intense.

However, despite everything, your new man does want to continue. The ball is in his court really, as it is his brother.

How about sitting around a table all together and just saying honestly how you feel? If your relationship goes on much longer, won't he , the brother, be more upset that you were supposedly skulking behind his back?

The news can be broken to him tactfully, as in, ' with regret, the last person we wanted to hurt was you,' we both like and respect you very much ' etc etc.

My best friend married her sisters ex.
All still great and happy

Why does your bf care what his younger brother thinks? So you used to date his younger brother when you were 15 - so what?

I think you should ask him why he's worried.

Thanks so much for replying. Holeinmyheart- thank you. I'll take up that advice.
The problem is, his brother, I think is quite jealous. They are a very close family, his brother is his full brother and they obviously live each other dearly and I hate the thought of causing trouble. I have told him to just say something, but I do feel although we like each other a hell of a lot, he's not rushing. So he maybe waiting till he Knows for sure I'm not going anywhere?
I know he likes me, he tells me, not with words but his actions. He really has treated me amazingly and I don't ever ever want it to end. I just wish 12 years ago I'd of realised how amazing he was.

Anyway, I'll speak to him again about it tomorrow and see what he says. ??
Thanks again everyone you've all helped so much xx

Love each other * bloody iPhones !!!

It isn't that unusual a scenario, I know a colleague who dated his wife's sister when he was younger. I think he should be easy and relaxed when he tells his brother- setting the tone, he shouldn't be apologetic or nervous.

You were kids at 15 and even at 18, a long time has passed and everyone should behave as adults. Is the brother dating?

I don't understand how this is an issue at all. Unless the people concerned have ishoos. In which case - as is always the case with issues - their issues are their own to deal with.

The brother is needy, jealous, tyrannical? Not your problem. Let him think and say what he wants while you two happy lovebirds carry on, with both of you pulling him up on anything shitty he says or does, though.

Your man is cowardly, co-dependent, in his brother's thrall? His problem, and definitely a relationship problem if he doesn't buck himself up. I'd be seriously re-thinking a relationship with someone who doesn't dare to tell a friend or family member that they are seeing me. It does not bode well for how he is going to prioritise you and your relationship, moving forward.

Apparently yes. His brother is dating ?? I know it all sounds silly, but I guess that's why I'm here hey?