How was it for you? Does counselling work??

[pickledbeetle]

I feel as if we have turned "a corner" but am looking at some "hill's ahead" and just wondered how others had felt and if the experience had been a positive one.

Im suppose to go see a counsellor. Im a bit scared, and my dp is worried it is going to change me, but hopefully itll do me some good. My friend goes and she says its doing her the world of good!

We've been through counselling and found it positive - dh particularly so, as it did challenge his perceptions of lots of things. Interesting to talk through our experiences of our parents marriages and to identify what assuptions we had from that.

It's not a quick fix, and only works if you work with it. But definitely worth doing IME.

How about going with dp to a counsellor? Dh and I went to a Relate counsellor last year to work out a few issues in our relationship. Dh still goes on his own to work out his own stuff and I've been a few times on my own too. It's been really really really great for our relationship. I can't say enough good things about it. We both liked the first person we met with, but if you don't, don't feel shy about asking to see someone else. It's very important that you BOTH feel comfortable.

Thank you. We have been going together for about 4 months and although initially sceptical I believe it may have saved our marriage.

Well done you, pickledbeet, but rmember you and your partner saved your marriage by recognising that you had problems, and doing something about it.

I attended counselling for a year after my husband left - it was something that he refused to even consider. I felt that it helped me enormously even although I couldn't save my marriage, and feel that I saved myself.