What should l do...

[castlesinthesky]

This is my first time to post do please bear with me.l have been with my partner for 12 years have two beautiful kids.He works away every few months.When he is away it is great kids are relaxed and happy, but when he is here there is an atmosphere in the house.
He snaps at everything l do, he has no respect for anything speaks to me like I'm dirt even my 4 year old says be nice to mam...have said to him before go if your not happy but he won't.He says he hates me yet all l have ever done is put everyone ahead of me and look after the house and kids.He goes drinking any time he has money was out Friday night and last night and always gets very drunk.
I just don't know what to do anymore l say leave and he won't why not if he isn, t happy then go leave ud in peace.He does nothing with the kids he used to be a good dad but he just doesn't seem to care anymore.
Sorry hope this makes sense advice needed please.

You get a free appointment with a solicitor and find out where you stand legally and financially. Then you can start to make decisions from an informed position.

You say partner, are you married or living together?

We are living together , he has suffered with depression in the past but that is not an excuse for the way he treats me he doesn't even bother much with his own family they know what he is like.

What yvy said

Knowledge is power, find out your options to give you choices.

If you're unhappy and can't see things changing then why waste your life away committing to this relationship.

If you love him and don't believe you've exhausted all avenues for improvement then try one last time, but at least do so knowing your options.