I am nc with my family so I don't know if my views are skewered due to lots of issues in my family.
Dp's mum doesn't like me. It's very subtle disguised as jokes. He doesn't see it. Says she's joking and I am sensitive. another female member does the same but she's known for 'being like that' so I am expected to accept it.
A lot of the time when we have been to family parties somethings been said which is a joke apparently which I take offense at. This includes racist comments such as 'white people can't cook/wash meat/smell' ( I am half white).
Last night his mother and cousin asked if I was moving abroad as I have just return from visiting relatives. I said yes I am thinking about it which turned into the mum saying my son is staying here with his mum. All I said was "it is his choice".
The cousin then said "we know it's his choice he's a big man" rolled her eyes and said please. I was quite for the rest of the evening.
I spoke to him when we got home and he said his mum was joking and why do I have a problem with his family. That his cousin reacted like that because I shouldn't have made a comment like it is his choice. It was unnecessary and in his family you respect elders. I said that he should have my back and not let people disrespect me and he said they never have done? He then went on to say he feels like I am trying to cause friction between him and his family. That I am not normal and I see things that are not there!
I don't know if I am in the wrong and too sensitive. He says his mum is so nice to me. I feel he doesn't see the subtle comments made especially when there's a group of women there.
Sorry this is so long and badly written 