I am actually too embarrassed to talk to any of my friends about this, because I feel like an idiot to be letting it get to me, I'm an adult, I should just rise above it, but the politics / friendships of other mums where I live and a fall out I had with one in particular last year is making me feel like I'm a school girl again, why does it bother me so much? I just want to be able to not give a s*
I have a few really good friends now who I met through our kids pre school, and I chat to a lot of other mums there and generally get on with everyone, but there are a few that seem to be all about status in the village, knowing everyone and everything people are doing, and when my dd first started I only knew a couple of other mums. I made the mistake of getting friendly with one of the mums who knows everyone and I did notice she seemed to be on a mission to get to know everyone new, she's super confident and admits she's v competitive herself and for her kids, she had them enrolled in every single local group or activity, went to every event and championed the village, she knew a lot of people and not saying anything's wrong with that, some people just stand out and make themselves known. She'd be really chatty and friendly to get to know you a bit, then send a facebook friend request, then arrange a play date, but then move on to someone else, like she'd ticked the box now on to the next. She included me in quite a few things at first and through me became friendly with one of my friends, after a while the three of us would meet up each week as a regular thing for several months. Then I started seeing pics and tags on facebook of things they were doing I hadn't been invited to, which hurt. Then she started inviting a few other mums along so they formed a group which I wasn't asked to be part of, and like a school girl felt all rejected and left out, but couldn't do or say anything as I needed to be an adult about it! The crux was when it was my birthday, my 2 friends didn't ask just told me they were bringing these other mums along to my birthday meal, they also invited a few more of their new friends, and all summer there were fb pics of them all with their kids together every week at parks, pools, beaches, and I wasn't invited.
Have to say their new group of friends weren't people I'd be good friends with, very cliquey and bitchy, a bit mean girls mums, so I was really hurt by my 2 friends, but didn't want to be friends with their new group iukwim. We drifted apart after that, I made some new friends, 2 of them I now count as close lovely friends who are really warm, real, no bitchiness, I also made friends with other mums of kids my dd became friends with at pre school and thesedays everybody shows they are now "friends" on fb, then suddenly and having ignored me for the last 9 months the friend who froze me out is now texting me again and being all chatty and friendly again. Then I notice on fb last week she's added about 6 of my new friends as fb friends, when the notification pops up that you & someone are now friends, literally 2 mins later it popped up saying she was now friends with them too, and has invited everyone even though some she hardly knows to a night out soon, it was a group invite and this time I was invited, a couple of friends have said this mum has suddenly started talking to them having ignored them before, it sounds so juvenile but I feel like she's trying to nick my friends lol, she's asked one of my friends over for a playdate next week and I feel like I've lost that friend already. She knows the history of my past with this mum, so not sure if I'm being like a school girl again bit I feel bit hurt over that, am I being really silly should I really just not give a s* or are there boundaries she's crossing and how do I deal with her for the next 6 years our kids will be at school together!?