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How do I stop feeling crap over this

26 replies

jl1983 · 25/04/2015 17:57

I feel like utter shit. 3 years ago I met a guy who I thought was single only to find out there was a gf and a woman he actually was living with. I contacted the then gf and she made out she wanted to be my friend but just used me to f##k me over. Anyway three years have past she is married which she was bk then but just separated now she was with him and she's gone bk to the one who originally cheated on me ... So she's seeing him whilst now never seeing her daughter and sleeping with both him and the husband. I know the husband he's now finally told her enough is enough. But she's parading herself like she hasn't done hout wrong and isn't marrried etc. They are going to same pub I go to and makes me feel crap as they're both not v nice people

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AlternativeTentacles · 25/04/2015 17:59

Why does this make you feel crap? It's a bit hard to follow.

gamerchick · 25/04/2015 18:02

Why did you get in touch with her in the first place?

Really your only options are, find another pub, just ignore them or go when they don't.

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jl1983 · 25/04/2015 18:31

Because she f##ked me over they're both pair of compulsive liars

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Finola1step · 25/04/2015 18:33

It sounds like you are well out of it. Leave them to their dramas.

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jl1983 · 25/04/2015 18:46

Well he's never been nice to women and her on one occasion we 'accidentally' bumped into him on a night out and he pretty much was attached to my hip. She didn't like it so got him drunk and slept with him in other room Sad hence after all this time I can't stand the woman... She won't give her husband a divorce as shed lose too much money and won't let him leave as he's a live in babysitter to their child whilst she goes over his

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StAlphonsosPancakeBreakfast · 25/04/2015 18:47

What's it to you, honestly? Move on. Unless you're enjoying the infantile drama?

Branleuse · 25/04/2015 18:49

sounds very dramatic. have you really got the enegry to waste worrying about people like that?

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jl1983 · 25/04/2015 18:52

Probs not ... I'm friends with the husband and the woman he's done one over . Thing is they're goin round like they haven't done anything wrong it's disgusting

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NerrSnerr · 25/04/2015 18:55

I'd find a new pub and leave them well alone.

Suzietastic · 25/04/2015 18:57

got him drunk and slept with him in another room

That would be enough for me to say "see ya!'

Suzietastic · 25/04/2015 18:57

Sorry :-(

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jl1983 · 25/04/2015 19:01

That's ok -that's why I hate her so much she literally ordered him to get away from me that night

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springydaffs · 25/04/2015 19:11

Dear me.

They sound like something out of the Addams family. Vile upon vile and vile some more.

Why do you care what they think? They are skanks, don't bother to get involved, even in your thoughts. They're just repulsive - all them, not you.

What is it about this that is sticking in your craw? If it's the injustice of it then, yes, it was monumentally unjust. But sounds par for the course with these two.

She fucked you over? You're in a long line, nothing personal, she does it to anybody xx

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jl1983 · 25/04/2015 19:18

I guess the fact I had feelings for him. As soon as she heard his then gf kicked him out she turned up and gave him 100 knowing he was skint. Controls him with money and sex

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gamerchick · 25/04/2015 19:24

Then aren't you better off out of it?

Seriously life is too short and relationships shouldn't be so hard.

Vivacia · 25/04/2015 19:30

Not this again? Come on jl !! The advice is going to the be the same as your other threads.

woowoo22 · 25/04/2015 19:36

What Vivacia said.

gamerchick · 25/04/2015 19:40

A repeat?

What do you want to happen OP?

Vivacia · 25/04/2015 19:51

I don't know why you have it in for this woman when you were both having sex with him behind his (first) girlfriend's back.

I mean this kindly, but you need professional help to get over this.

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jl1983 · 25/04/2015 19:57

I didn't know he was with anyone that's the diff he told me he was single

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gamerchick · 25/04/2015 20:01

But what do you want? Are you annoyed he's with her and not with you? He sounds like a wet weekend.

woowoo22 · 25/04/2015 20:04

Ignore them

or stop going to the pub

or find a new pub

What is your desired outcome? It is a lot of energy to be spending on people who aren't nice.

VanitasVanitatum · 25/04/2015 20:04

He's a cheating scum bag, seriously. See the light. God knows what the other woman sees in him but leave her to it, it's him who treated you badly.

Vivacia · 25/04/2015 20:13

You continued to have sex with him despite being in full possession of the facts.

Do you know what, I'm not getting sucked in to yet another thread about this fuckwit. You seriously need help, you can't make your life all about this. You deserve better.

AuntyMag10 · 25/04/2015 20:55

You again? Leave them alone!