DDs dad has got back in contact

[BigFatPanda]

I received a message from him yesterday

"Is there any chance of me having xxx for a couple hours as soon as please?"

This is the first message I've from him in over a month. He hasn't seen DD for over two months. His last message was to tell me he wasn't having her because he had food poisoning and then insulting me!

I know he didn't have food poisoning. He was hungover. He was out with a friends friends boyfriend "getting on it"

From the day she was born he's let her down. Always making arrangements with her then not showing up or cancelling 5 minutes before he's due to collect her.

Then there's the emotional blackmail and the woe is me sob stories.

He just doesn't care about her unless his mum has a go at him about it and the few times he actually has had her he's just taken pictures of her to upload on fucking Facebook and Instagram pretending to be father of the year!!

I can't deal with him anymore. Our lives are so much happier when he's not in it causing chaos

I don't want him to have anything to do with her but I don't know what to do

I haven't replied to his message as I needed time to think about what to say other than fuck the fuck off!

I'm really at a loss here someone please give me advice with what I should do!

I agree with Solid brass or contact centre if that doesn't work... A contact centre may be better as you will have a documented log of his failure to attend and he will have to spend time with her can't take a pic and leave.

I would also leave him to arrange it as he seems to make no motivation to do anything. I think the people posting saying how important it is to have a relationship with both parents unless they let them down are fortunate enough to have never sent their child to a parent who doesn't care. it isn't an enhancing experience and it opens up wounds again and again when they float in and out of their life.

But I do agree word it carefully how you suggest anything.