Been with DH over 15 years and to be honest I can't say I like him very much at times.
Nothing has happened - it's like I just don't love him anymore. Whenever we spend time together we end up fighting.
I'm sure he'd say I nag him and I know I do - but sometimes he does things that cause me to nag!
He annoys me when he flies off the handle with the children instead of dealing with them calmly. He gets really stressed if he's trying to do something and they're in the way. He gets so exasperated and starts giving out loudly and he sounds on edge. We are trying to teach DS1 to react calmly to stress but he doesn't have a good example in DH.
Other things annoy me. If I realise he's on the way home just after the DCs have gone to bed - I text him and say 'please be quiet when you come in'. He replies he will be quiet and then every time he comes in and bangs the front door loudly and might be talking loudly on his phone. If I get annoyed and go down and tell him to keep the noise down he tells me to stop nagging him! Of course the DC's hear him and start asking 'is daddy home?' And it takes them much longer to fall asleep.
He puts things into the dishwasher without scrapping food off so when the wash is done there is lumps of food on everything. If I ask him to please scrape the dishes he says I'm nagging. I have asked him to leave the dishes for me to do - but he won't do that.
I'm only in my 30's. We have 2 DCs and a house together. I don't want to leave - I just want things to be like they were before. There is decades of this stretching out in front of us.
I used to be in love with him but that was before we had DCs.
Is it normal to feel like this about someone after 15 years together?