My oldest friend seems a have stopped answering my calls

[SevenAteNine]

My oldest friend, who I've known since we were 11, has seemingly out of the blue stopped returning my calls. I spoke to him about four months ago; he said he'd call me back, and never did. I've tried to call him a couple of times since then, but nothing.
I don't know what else to do.
I know, poor little me, but I feel a bit sad/confused about it all. I was at his wedding last year. I know it isn't about me but I am finding it not to take it personally.

How well do you know his wife? I think the wedding may be your answer, sad but true.

It is sad. I'd probably drop a line at some point. 'Hope all ok as not heard from you' then leave it.

Yes, I was thinking that too. She was really nice before they were married, but I felt as though her demeanour changed slightly afterwards, although I didn't think anything of it at the time.

Awwww x it is confusing, hurtful and made me angry when I had this. I'd drop him a line as Scoop suggested. If he ignores that hen i'd leave it. How did you notice her demeanour change towards you? jealous cow I reckon

Do you know what? If the opinions of his wife make him decide he doesn't want us to be friends after more than 25 years, he is not that good a friend anyway. I will try one last message on Facebook in case he's lost his phone, then get on with my life.

Good on you Seven. His foal none actions are cowardly, nobody can accuse you of that!

I mean at least you know how to behave politely, he is disrespectful.

I'd be tempted to message her too, say hello, hope you're both ok, haven't heard from you guys since the wedding, we all need a catch up... Make it clear that you want to hear from her too even if you don't. You never know, there could be other stuff going on, attempts to get pregnant etc, that are taking up all their time and emotions..

i'd leave hom go.
sounds like the wife got her claws out.

I’ve had the same thing happen with my best friend of the past few years, we met at work and would go for a teabreak together at least 3 times a day…then in January it suddenly seemed to stop, every time I would ask he’d say no or that he was too busy…then later I’d see him going with other people. I have no idea why he stopped talking to me, I’ve had a bit of a cry over it…but now I just think well if you won’t tell me what’s wrong (and I’ve asked him outright) then you! If we see each other now we say hello and that’s it…broke my heart at the time, and occasionally still does

Either he is a wimp who won't work with you on the issue and he is employing PA tactics.

He has his own stuff going on and it is not about you.

You are not the sort of person who will accept the issues and it will be harmful or pointless him trying to work through the problems with you.