Father's marriage without a prenup

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I have heard today that my father (in his seventies) is remarrying someone he has been with for a short time (they don't live together).
I am upset as he didn't think to tell me himself, it was just dropped into conversation. He has also clearly not considered the potential impact / repercussions this has for me and my siblings.
Obviously this is a really insensitive thing to discuss but I need to understand.. If they marry and then he dies first then am I right in thinking that his assets go to his new wife, who on her death could just leave it to who ever she likes (ie her kids) and we potentially would not get anything?
I need to make clear that it is not the money that concerns me, so much as feeling hurt that he hasn't thought of this. I just need to check this is correct before I discuss this with him.

It is not about being a greedy fucker. It is about watching your contemporaries enjoying the ongoing benefits of a secure and stable home life growing up, uncomplicated arrangements for life events like weddings & funerals and to finally crown it a lovely windfall later. It is shit when your parents divorce & that does not finish when you grow up.

Having two parents who stay together for life seems to me winning in life's lottery & I certainly want to give my own children a winning ticket having experienced life without one.

It isn't isolated though to children of divorced parents. My DF died whilst still fairly young. I know that my DM won't ever remarry...partly for the reasons discussed in this thread, however, whilst I acknowledge the point raised against remarriage, I would love for my DM to find a man who would adore her.

Speak to your DF about your feelings, be totally honest about what your fears are. No doubt your DF loves you and will want to ease your concerns.

Speak to your dad and just make sure he updates his will to what he wants it to state, otherwise he just might not consider the implications of remarrying - I didn't think a pre nup was actually valid in the UK but it sounds more his will that you want to ensure is up to date