Has anyone taken back a partner after they left you for someone else ?!

[Bambino1234]

As the title says really ?! How long were they gone ? Did you take them back or had you moved on ?!

I haven't... but my mum did, at least 6 times that I know of.

My dad would find a new woman, spend 2-3 months sneaking around with her, meantime gaslighting the shit out of my mum, then come home from work one night and announce he was leaving and moving in with the OW.

6 weeks later the OW would be sick to the back teeth of him and kick him out, he would then just rock back up at our gaff and my mum would be pathetically grateful and let him back.

This happened every couple of years throughout my childhood, including while my mum was in the last trimester with my little sister, and over Xmas one year.

As a result I spent most of my twenties in completely unsuitable relationships, and cheated on every partner I had. Because obviously, cheating was fine.

Do you want to take him back?
Have you moved on?
How did it make you feel when he left you for someone else?

Not me.

But both Mrs Grant Bovey & Anthea Turner. And look how that turned out for each of them.

Briefly considered it for about a millisecond while spaghetti head was in full force, but thankfully sanity saved the day and I said no, no, a thousand times no!

He very quickly moved on to someone else (who I rather suspect was waiting in the wings - he generally keeps them lined up and ready to go - not really sure how or why).

Why do you ask? Are you considering taking someone back?

I did and it blew up spectacularly in my face. If I've said it once, I've said it a million times: Once the trust is gone, it is gone!

It got to the point where I couldn't even trust myself anymore, let alone him, and I kept second guessing myself.

As you asked, he was gone for 2 months the first time but I hadn't yet moved on. The second time he was gone for 4 months but this time I had moved on but he managed to worm his way back into my life.

I'm now a few years down the line and I couldn't be more ashamed of it. If I could go back in time and shake myself I'd be there like a shot!

Stay away. You will eventually resent yourself if you pursue that road.

I know it seems hard if it's a certain kind of life or person you've only ever known but it really isn't worth sacrificing the very essence of you.

Affairs are deal breakers in my book. Not a single chance!

I took my husband back after six months and five years later he did it again with annother woman and i cut contact totally so he could not come back again but he did try.

And to further echo some of the stories written here please don't. It sounds as if you are on the cusp, in a sort of 'should I; Should I not mentality.' So don't do it. Unless of course you have then in that case get out now. Or if you haven't then leave well alone.

The amount of self-hatred and self-reproaching I've done because I went back and forth with this man was not worth it. I will quite literally shout it from the roof tops if I have to! Plan your life alone now without him and indeed should he attempt to crawl his way back in be there with a middle finger up!

A good friend of mine did. She invested a further 5 years in the relationship & endured a lot of heartache (it was harder to stay than leave).

He has just left her again, for an OW.

I think her self-esteem & confidence must have been down the toilet for her to gave agreed to take him back.