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Colleague in 99% probable dv situation

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lucanlordsit · 22/04/2015 16:53

I work in a place with several ladies who are Romanian. One is very young (maybe 20 maximum) and is pregnant with her 2nd child. She has been coming to work with injuries, most recently a black eye. She does not speak much English, her MIL works with us and blatantly lied about the bruise. MIL speaks excellent English, and the excuse was not viable - I don't want to out myself, but it could not have been what she said it was. MIL is defensive of the son, instead of quite frankly, kicking his arse for him.
I have no idea how I can help her, especially as her English is poor. Her dp translates at medical appointments, so she can't get help there. I just wanted to be able to let her know that there is help if she needs / wants it and that she doesn't have to be resigned to it.

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lucanlordsit · 24/04/2015 11:45

I'm, sorry, I didn't mean sent home as in deported. I meant that she would be forced by his family to go back in order to avoid SS.

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Hissy · 24/04/2015 14:54

She could be helped, and her life protected AND stay in this country - if she wants to.

help her. he will kill her their child too perhaps. Don't do nothing. Call the midwife team and report your concerns. You would never forgive yourself.

PeppermintCrayon · 24/04/2015 17:21

What an awful situation. Definitely report to all the above suggestions

sadwidow28 · 24/04/2015 18:48

The MIL is clearly complicit in the 'cover-up' of how the injuries were done. But it may actually be the MIL who is the perpetrator and not the husband as PP are assuming.

Just a thought.

Hope you can get some help for her OP.

Patchworkpatty · 24/04/2015 19:06

slowtrain is absolutely right. immigration does change with dv. there is an organization. called Big Word that will do phone translation, you might want to try that. you pass the phone backwards and forwards to the. customer, with you talking I'm English and her in Romanian. Might be worth a try ... Most public bodies also use it

Kissesgingers · 24/04/2015 19:14

With the midwives help the toilets could be "planted" with dv notice in her language? Or you could Google translate and slip to her at work?

Kissesgingers · 24/04/2015 19:15

I did nhs antenatal classes sat beside a Lithuanian translator provided by the nhs.

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