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I am very possessive

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priya · 29/04/2004 14:23

My DH loves to take massages. We often give each other massages (twice a month). Once a year he goes to a business trip where he gets a spa and massage package. I know massage sessions are very proffessional, but I am very uncomfortable with any woman giving my DH a massage I know this is not a biggie for him but I am a super possessive person and feel very bad and sad when I hear this "a woman gave me a massage". I can't even tell him, he'll probably think I am crazy. Am I being unreasonable? Please advice me friends.

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tammybear · 29/04/2004 14:58

I think if i was in your shoes, i would probably feel exactly the same. Im finding it hard to cope with what my dp has to do (hes an actor and has to kiss this other girl and have a threesome in his next play) Green is so not my colour and I hate being the jealous over possessive type! but i just have to keep telling myself that its his job, so i just have to deal with it although it absolutely drives me up the wall when I think of it. Just try telling yourself the same that this is what the women are getting paid for, so its just their job. HTH

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priya · 29/04/2004 16:58

Thanks! Do you think I should discuss this with my DH?

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tammybear · 29/04/2004 17:05

Well I told my dp what I was thinking because it was just eating me up, plus he wanted me to go and see it! So I just explained to him about it, and how I felt, and for some strange reason he turned around and said that it made him love me more (????) I really dont understand men lol.

Just be honest with him. He may think that it's nothing to be worried about but just place him in your shoes, say if it was the other way round, how would he feel, then usually it makes them see sense, as men can be just as possessive as us women.

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priya · 29/04/2004 18:37

This thing is really eating me up I will talk to him about this today. Thanks again Tammy!

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tammybear · 29/04/2004 19:15

Thats quite alright. Let me know how it goes!

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priya · 30/04/2004 00:52

Hey Tammy, I talked to him and guess what..he had the exact same response as your DH gave you.."I love you even more" and the discussion ended there itself. Really its very hard to understand men!

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tammybear · 30/04/2004 12:50

Lol I know. Dont make much sense do they? Im glad he was understanding. XX

Snarl · 30/04/2004 21:35

I'm also very possessed. Would anyone care to give me a massage?

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