Heartbroken..:(

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I am a mother of a 7 yr old child. I have been separated from my husband 5 years back. I met a guy 4 years back and we had a very friendly & happy relationship. It seemed he loves me and promised me lot of things. We were planning to get married , buy a house & settle down. He always assured me that he is next to me in all times. He was very good to my kid, they both used to gel well. Out of nowhere he dumps me, and am still in a shock. I am 37. And I was looking forward in this relationship and now I feel am nowhere, I cant concentrate on anything, I am depressed. Please help me.

Oh gosh, that is awful. I am so sorry you're going through this. You must feel so confused.

I know it's such a horrible cliche, but there are other men in the world who don't behave in this erratic and unfair fashion. And once you're through the shock and horror of this, you will meet them and rebuild. In the meantime, try to look after yourself as much as you can - good food, walks in the sunshine, exercise, and perhaps think about seeing your GP about your depression.

Sending you hugs.

Has he given any reasons?

So sorry this has happened to you. Sounds like you are feeling really confused and let down. Do you have some supportive family or friends who can spends some time with you while you are feeling vulnerable. You will come through this. holly's suggestion to see you go about the depression is sound. They may be able to refer you for counselling. All the best.

I have seen a psychologist & currently taking therapy sessions. I am completely lost since this incident took place. I feel that I am engrossed in the trauma. The guy did give me a reason for the break up & he says its not gonna work anymore. I wonder how men switch their feelings in a flash? I feel he used me, feels pathetic. :(

I know it feels like the end of the world but you will get over it. One day you might be glad the relationship ended. Was he really the one for you? My guess is that there were areas in the relationship that weren't quite right so you might have had a lucky escape. Give yourself time to grieve and then make contact with your friends and start socialising. It will be hard at first but you will be glad you did it in the end. Take pride in your appearance because it will make you feel better. Don't contact him whatever you do because you will make yourself feel worse. Don't let this man get you down too much, one day you will be happy again but it will take time. X

I am facing n number of sleepless nights. But trying to get over it. Practicing breathing exercises, going for walk, hitting the gym but it haunts my mind day in & out. Unable to concentrate on my kid. I feel guilty. I prove to be a bad mother. :(

What makes you think you're a bad mother?

Sleepless nights - get some herbal tea, the calamine & spearmint is very good, any that have a calming effect.

You will get over it, in time. Its early days so don't rush your feelings. In many respects you got with this chap quite soon after the break-up of your marriage. Maybe you weren't fully over that relationship when this one started?

For what it's worth, my relationship ended 6 weeks or so ago. I have a 2yr old boy. I lost my partner, our home and my business all in one go. It's been a very testing and stressful time, but I keep on going purely because of my son. He's everything to me and whilst we have some difficult times ahead, we'll get through it together

Your not a bad mother you are grieving so give yourself a break here. Another one here saying give yourself some time and look after yourself you are worth it.

Thanks everyone for such positive replies.

of course you are not a bad mother!

Stop telling yourself you are lost without him etc and start saying to yourself thank god I am no longer with someone so careless and not worth it so I can meet someone new who is!

and you will. You are still young!!