Is my relationship doomed already?

[dippyd123]

Hi mummy's. I posted a few weeks ago and enjoyed reading all your advice and basically im back for some reassurance more than anything I think.

The guy im seeing and I have only been together a few weeks but we had been having an "emotional" relationahip (has described by a few of you on here) for quite a while although I dont actually see it as a relationship. We are getting on really well I am now ready to admit ive fallen for him big time and he is adamant he feels the same we have so much fun together and im not just talking sex we just seem to be laughing at each other constantly like a pair of school kids the problem is we just seem to be coming up against so many obstacles and negativity and its starting to make me wonder if I need to re think things, baring in mind Ive not been in a serious relationship for over 5 years so im pretty independant and pretty anxious about starting anything serious. The problems are this.

1. He is pretty fresh out of a relationship and had been getting alot of hassel off his ex, shes now in a new relationship already so doesnt seem to care anymore but it had left me anxious about any future problems

2. Whenever I havent got my children hes got his so we are struggling between our jobs aswell to see each other. Its barmy last week he came to help me with the food shop just so we could catch an hour together :(

3. He reminds me of an ex in so many ways and it scares me as that ended badly, thee chemistry we have is pretty similar

4. My kids dad has taken an instant dislike to him and not even met him hes going on things hes seen on facebook, although we havent been together for a long time we are on good terms and its unlike him to pass comment on my life my sister has also taken an instant dislike ands only met him briefly whilst in morrisons of all places and went running to my mum. It has pissed me off that shes judged a book by its cover was a gorgeous warm day and he was in a vest top with his tattoos on show she went and told my mum he looked "rough"

So based on what I have wrote does anyone believe I/we can try and work round the problems?

Thanks for reading x

Re: time together - I'm assuming both of you have an every other weekend set up with contact - could either of you persuade your ex to swap the weeks? (Probably him since your ex has already taken a dislike to him.)

Is the reason your sister and your ex have taken against him purely on looks? Does he come across a bit chavvy? Do they think he's beneath you socially? And is he a bit of a bad boy, or does he just like tattoos?

If you're having fun together then there's no reason to stop seeing him just cos other people don't like him. Especially your ex!

What was the ex like that he reminds you of? What went wrong with that ex?

pocketsaviour - re acess my children (apart from my eldest who sees her dad irregually) they go 2 nights a week a day through week and either a fri or sat night sometimes full weekend. Hes been having his saturday and sunday but he works shifts so another issue.

He isnt chavvy hes a bit of a Rocker and a love for tattoos hes 6ft1 and big built i guess he does have that bad boy look about him but im into that look so doesnt bother me. My kids dad is a similar build with tats so hes no room to talk although wasnt his look he commented on he just said he seems full of himself and cocky. People come across different when writing on facebook though dont they?

Regards to reminding me of an ex its more the way i feel towards him the strong feelings are what i experienced before but he is very similar in personality and tge things hes into. Ive still got a bitter taste in my mouth about that relationship 9 years on