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Boyfriend hates staying away from home

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Lubberlubber · 20/04/2015 16:15

My boyfriend of 7 months is lovely. We get on great, I really fancy him and he treats me brilliantly.

I have a daughter and I haven't introduced them yet but we plan on doing a few things altogether in the next couple of monthS. I wanted
To be careful on that side of things.

So it means we see each other a few times a week and we spend the night together twice a week. I always stay at his, there has always a reason or other why this is more practical. He has stayed at mine a few times but I can tell he doesn't feel as at home there.

I always assumed as time went on and he got to know my daughter and when she was comfortable with him, he'd spend more time at my house.

Recently however he has revealed that he has always felt uncomfortable staying away from home. Even hotels. He just prefers to go home. He is a bit of an introvert in many ways and likes his own space and I respect that.

But we had another conversation about it last night and it's made me wonder if this relationship can ever progress? Even when he does get to know my daughter he is always going to want to go back to his own space. I'm not bothered about that now I'm thinking about if it were to go further, I want a relationship where there is a chance of living with someone and more children and I know he wants that too but it seems contradictory.

I'm just wondering if anyone has any thoughts on this issue of his.

OP posts:
Galvanized · 20/04/2015 16:19

Does he live in his own place? Or with flatmates? Or "at home" as in, still with mummy?

mynewpassion · 20/04/2015 16:19

Maybe when it progresses to engagement and marriage, you guys can buy a place together and then it will be the place he feels most comfortable.

Jan45 · 20/04/2015 16:28

Sorry but if he wants to be in a relationship then it might involve staying somewhere other than his place, you are right to be concerned, it sounds plain odd. That would seriously piss me off, esp if I had a daughter to consider.

pocketsaviour · 20/04/2015 18:18

You've only been together 7 months. I would not sweat this.

I am a real homebody and hate being away from my own place, but have still managed to have three live-in relationships :)

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