What do you think of this advice needed

[Molly333]

I met someone two years ago on a dating site and we went out for dinner, there was never fireworks but a nice calm man who's funny company , sex has always been poor as he cannot orgasm without loads of work and to be honest he puts little work into me. There is a lack of lust and inexperience his end I think . I cannot believe I'm saying this but 2.5 years down the line my two children love him but I don't feel loved at all, we've talked about it many times before and he says he has feelings but never says love , if I push conversations about this or our future etc he gets niggly and says he feels bullied so therefore I don't bring much up as its so bloody hard . Part of me has always thought I just fill his spare time but I'm not sure what to think now as I'm dreading telling my kids it's over , what would you do ?

Suppose you had no kids - you'd end this, wouldn't you?

If he's so great he'll carry on seeing the kids, won't he? And if he doesn't, well, then they'll see for themselves - but they'll be okay.

He needs to go.

Oh god he's text saying he thinks the world of me and the kids and loves me , but I feel not bothered what's that about ?

Molly, you know what you have to do and you are just putting it off (which I get by the way). Your kids will be fine so long as you sit them down and tell them the truth. Just tell them that you like him a lot but that you don't love him as much as you should.

Children are not stupid and I honestly think if you asked them they would tell you that he is not for you. Maybe they are too little to make that judgement. Put yourself first and everything else will fall into place.