My ex-boyfriend has got engaged. I ended it so why do I feel upset?

[QueenBean]

We dated for about 2 years, and broke up 4 years ago. I've had one other boyfriend since and my current partner, who I've been with for 2 1/2 years.

The now engaged ex was a lovely guy, we were really good friends and continued to be friends after we broke up. I ended it because I couldn't see it going any further.

He met someone a year or so after we broke up, she wasn't at all happy about us continuing to be friends so we both pulled away and gradually withdrew from the friendship.

I've just seen on FB that he's just got engaged. I couldn't see anything more with him but I feel really sad about it and I'm not quite sure why.

I am so happy with my current partner and love him a lot, I don't feel that I wish I was still with my ex. Just feel sad about it and a bit bothered and I can't work out why!

Is this normal?

I saw no-one else commented so thought I would.

Yes I do think this is normal.

Your reasons for being upset are personal to you, but for me when my ex started a new relationship (he was abusive, I was in another relationship) I was upset but more that he was happy when he was such a bad boyfriend (in the end, not in the beginning).

I think perhaps yours has a bit to do with not being friend anymore with this person who was a big part of your life. His life is changing and you're not involved at all. Not as a girlfriend but I would say as a friend. Sad perhaps at how different things are now.

Thank you very much for commenting, and sorry to hear about your abusive ex

Yes that's exactly how I feel! A bit sad that I sort of feel like he's settling a bit with her because I know that she's asked him to give up a lot, and sad that it's all changed in our lives and that as his friend I haven't been around to see it go that way

Just feels really weird, and a lot like we are all growing up!