Hi all
So here goes. I'm 44, divorced 8 yrs ago. He had an affair, I left and started again. 3 relationships in that time. First was my friends neighbour for 18 months, we got on great but were more like friends, very amicable. Second was for 5 months, family friend, again we parted company on good terms. I had serious trust issues after my marriage ended hence dating people I sort of knew through others.
So I tried Internet dating, had a couple of dates, confidence started to come back. I began chatting to a guy, was really quite normal! We met after 3 weeks, and here I am still with him 3 years later.
The thing is I only met his son once, he is 5 yrs old. Never met his daughter, who is 14. I've never met any of his family or friends. He changed his job and now works 10 minutes from my home, but we are still only having wed nights as date night and he is here every other weekend. He's met my family, my kids of course, and stays here often. I know I am answering my own question here, I am assuming he is still married.
The thing is every other aspect of my life is great. My kids are happy, I have worked myself hard to get a mortgage and slowly getting the place how I want it. Love my job, and also about to launch my own little business venture.
I rely on this guy for nothing, I know I need to move on. I have asked to meet his friends, and said I would like to see where he lives as that is a big part of his life. Every time he placates me then nothing ever happens. I think I need a huge shove In the right direction!
Did some thinking yesterday and I don't feel I've ever been anyone's first choice. Would just like some feedback please.