secrets

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Recently in an argument dh said there are things about him i dont know and don't have a right to know. We have been together since 1998 and i have known him for a long time so it came as a bit of a shock. It was a couple of evening's ago but has bugged me ever since. Would this be a dealbreaker for others or would you just leave it??

It looks to me like there could be a few problems, maybe he's a cheating prick with a secret life on the side and you are right to not trust him.
Or maybe he's shit at communication and you not trusting him when he might not have done anything wrong is pushing him away.
There seems to be so many variables in this situation as another poster mentioned "he could have been abused and is setting up boundaries or it could be something else and you don't know"

He could have blocked you on Twitter because you acted a bit strangely about what could have been a random woman. But he also could have blocked you on Twitter so you can't see him interacting with another woman.

I might not be putting this very well but what I'm trying to get at is.....
So many things could be happening, you could have so many different problems with your relationship.
Are you sure you both want to even start to work it all out? It certainly doesn't seem to sound like he wants to fix anything.
It might be ultimatum time, tell him it's now or never all or nothing.
You are both honest and go to see a counsellor as equals or just end the misery and start living your lives separately so you can live the best life you can.
I'm sorry if this doesn't help at all.

He's entitled to his privacy and you don't have the right to pry into his past.

Regarding Twitter, you sound paranoid.

You don't have any DCs together? Time to end things. You are making each other unhappy.

Yes there are so many problems. I love him but i agree i don't think it can be fixed.
I was suprised what the other poster said about him being abused because it was a thought that occured to me because he does not like being close with people emotionally. I will have to move forward now though because its so physically and emotionally draining being with someone who is like this. I am so sad because we have been through so much together.