Sorry, this is silly long!
I will give a back story to try not drip feed. DP and I have been together around 3 yrs. I am bipolar-when he met me he didn't believe in mental illness and yet became the most amazing support when I had a massive 6 month major depressive episode. He's stuck by me manic too. I know that should technically be a given if you get with someone knowing their condition, he had never known anything like it though and I was particularly bad.
I have a very nearly 5yo dd, he met her 10 months after we started seeing each other. He is amazing with her.
We got pregnant 9 months ago and after discussions were going to keep the baby, however I miscarried during the first trimester.
We have been saving for a mortgage, he already has one but it's a tiny bachelor pad and his pension as he's self employed. I have moved back in with parents for saving.
We had a chat about our future house yesterday and he sounded withdrawn, I asked why and he said he has doubts.We decided we should split up because of this.
I am heartbroken, I am aware 3 years isn't long-I aren't a silly little girl being sad about a first love, I've just never split up with someone when we both still live each other before and aren't sure how to deal with it.