dh in a bad mood that could affect the whole weekend - how to you deal with this?

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He's whats known as passionate - so highs and lows and right now he's called to say or rant about what a bad day he's having. Something has happened at work that's really upset him and I know it's going to be hard to cheer him up.

What do you do? I worry that if I agree with him too much then I could make it worse, If I put the other side across then he'll think I'm not being supportive, If I just nod my head then I'll look bored. I do want him to feel suppported, but never sure of which way to go.

Also I tend to get down if he's down - is this normal? or is it possible to carry on as normal when DH so cross?

oh yes, I'm not a journo - just changed from my Halloween name - Glassofslime.

my dh can be like this, he reacts emotionally to many situations, he wears his heart on his sleeve.

I vary how I deal with it. Sometimes I ignore it and carry on as usual. Ohter times I talk him through it which is often easier but I get fed up with 'indulging' him so often - or at least that's how it comes across to me.

When I get fed up with this situation, I usually start ranting and tell him to grow up and stop being so self-centred.

Have a glass of his fave tippple ready, give him aliitle foot rub while he gets it all out his system and he'll be putty in your hands..unless he really is grouchy and just wants 'space'.

Have a glass of his fave tippple ready, give him aliitle foot rub while he gets it all out his system and he'll be putty in your hands..unless he really is grouchy and just wants 'space'.

my DH like this too. but he's like it because of manic depression.

only thing to do with him is give him space on his own.

talking is a waste of time.

Perfectly reasonable to have a grump when you come home from work, but surely this shouldn't affect the entire weekend?

I know it shouldn't affect the whole weekend, but it will. There are many advantages of being married to someone who feels things so strongly, but this is one of the dissadvantages. He will worry and fester over it all weekend.

I was thinking that I'd order a chinese, I've asked him to pick up a bottle of wine at the station. It's just going to be hard going trying to get him to forget about work without seeming unsympathetic.

those of you with similar dh's do you find you get down too?

I sympathise. My DH is like this too. He can be in a bad mood over stupid things and it can last for days.

He was foul last weekend and it turned out it was because .... he didnt want to go back to work on Monday wtf??? He ruined our entire weekend because of a Monday Morning Feeling.

I try to ignore it as much as possible and carry on as normal until it all becomes too much and then I snap and shout at him to GROW UP. Its like living with a hormonal teenager

Is there such a thing as the male menopause or male PMT, because my DH can be a right grump at times , he is 45 .

He was in a mood all last weekend , sometimes its like treading on eggshells.

yep my dh can ruin a whole weekend in a mood too. What gets me down is the walking on eggshells bit and it annoys me that I HAVE to be extra nice and listen to his problems and suggest to do things I don't like very much just to try and cheer him up.

Might be easier to leave him in a mood (grin)!!

Different story if the tables are turned though. I am not allowed to be in a mood, he just goes out at the slightest wiff of a huff!!!

Oh and a good couple of hours on his motorbike usually sees him back in a better mood and gets him out of my hair (grin)

Sometimes I'm really glad I'm a single parent.
Seriously you shouldn't pander to their moods! I try and use toddler taming methods on my bf--if he is badly behaved he is ignored!