You've all been telling me to do it for years. 
Years of toxic relationship, poisoning dd against me, belittling me, general nastiness.
My brother cut her off six months ago after she said some very nasty stuff to dd about me and him and then denied it and called dd a shit stirrer and liar.
When this kicked off my brother gave me some paperwork relating so he told me to her will, power of attorney, funeral plans, etc. I never looked at it and stuffed it on a bookcase in the folder it came in.
Maybe two months ago she started going on about paperwork my brother had relating to jewellery certificates, told me to tell him she wanted them back. Plus a chair she'd lent him. He said he didn't think he had the paperwork and reckoned he'd given them to me. She was going nuts.
Anyway he came over at the weekend, brought the bloody chair to me and mentioned about it been will stuff as well. Penny dropped and I found the folder. I rang mum and said Id got everything and she could and get it, she seemed happy.
Anyway she rang last night and I could tell straight away from her voice I was in "trouble". She sounded really down. I asked her if she was ok and she said she wasn't. I asked her what was wrong and she said it didn't matter. She wants me to beg her to tell me and I thought im not playing stupid games. So ignored all the six year old attitude and arranged for her to come and pick stuff up today. Couldn't think what I've done to piss her off.
My brother rang me this afternoon to warn me he's had a massive, pages long, email from her ranting. Saying one of us two have been concealing the paperwork from us and she wants to know which one.
So I'm waiting for her to turn up. Dd in the mean time without me knowing has looked through the folder. My brother had put some emails in there which he'd been sent at the time of the big fall out. I hadn't known they were in there and dd read it all. Pages of nasty stuff. Again accusing dd of being a liar, saying she thinks dd has mental health issues, again denying everything dd said. I had seen these emails before. Told dd to put them back, not to worry about them, that grandma is the one with mental health issues and she's to be treated like a batty lady. Smile and nod and ignore.
So she turns up. I answer the door, she moves away from the door allowing my two dogs to run out past her as she's made room for them to go past her. If she'd come in the house like I was expecting her to they wouldn't have run out. I told her to go in. She refuses to look at me and mutters something. I'm now chasing puppy who's nearly in the road. She's still dithering in the driveway and I tell her again to go in (quite sharply) as I know my other dog will follow her in if she does. So she goes in, I get both dogs in. My dogs like her, she normally loves them and fusses them. She stands with her hands in her pockets, refuses to talk to me, or the dogs, has her back to me.
So I give her the paperwork, carry the chair to her car. Say goodbye and turn round and come in. Id normally have been asking her i for a coffee and trying to sort things out. But I give up, totally wash my hands of her. Fed up of the immature games. I imagine she's trying to punish me as in her eyes she thinks ive kept this folder from her.
To make matters worse dd tells me after all of this that dd has made some interesting sounding annotations to the email print offs. I don't know whether to laugh or cry. She's gone through it with a pen circling stuff like where mum has said dd is a liar dd has written stuff like "no, you're the liar, you said xyz".
My mum is going to blow her stack when she finds this. She'll think I'm involved and will never believe I didn't know. She will take it as further evidence of dds delinquency. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Part of me still feels sad that a 72yo woman now has nobody left in the world. Maybe one friend but she'll fall out with her soon. None of her friends last.