Letter from my mother regarding contact after NC.

[DancingDays]

I haven't spoken to her in years. DC1 has forgotten about her, DD2 was a baby and DS wasn't here. DD2 and DS have wide ranging health issues and SN. I live in the area I grew up and she has moved 50ish miles away. She hasn't sent cards or phoned etc since moving so has zero contact in years with DC.

A letter arrived via courier last night. She very formally states that she intends to see DC 1, 1/2 day every weekend or 1 full day every other weekend, increasing as things progress. She says she has the backing of My ExP and will fight for it if necessary.

I haven't been able to contact ExP but don't believe he would have given her support. My initial reaction is to ignore and see where she goes from here. or should I start taking action?

DD2s needs are quite complex and DS requires specialist training, he attends SN nursery. (But doesnt have a social worker.) So even if she fought for contact she wouldn't get unsupervised, would she?

DD1 is very happy, but I think knowing her grandparent may upset her completely so I am worried about her meeting her also.

My suspicion is that she has heard DD1s recent achievements in a sport she is socially involved with and wants to share in DD1s achievements.

Anyone experienced this? Is it common for GPs to get contact if they wish?

I will fight for her not to see DCs but not sure how likely it is that she would get to see them in our situation.

Send her this: "Mrs X, I have read your recent communication and I believe Arkell v. Pressdram gives the most relevant precedent".

Don't reply - just ignore it. She will not get access and you don't want to open a line of communication.

Focus on your family!

Arkell v Pressdram

Is there any chance she would try to see your DD1 at school or at her sport? If so, you might want to explicitly tell them she is only to leave with you or persons you have authorised (and specifically not your mother)

Just return a letter recorded delivery with 'no chance'

Maybe have a word with school in case she tries to rock up there, and also your daughter so she knows not to go with her.

She may turn up at your home, in which case don't answer the door/say as little as possible.

Definitely don't reply. If this was about the kids, she would have sent them a letter or a birthday card and asked you politely to see them. It's about conflict with you.

dancing, is it worth making a note of when this letter arrived and keeping it so that if she gets in touch again and starts making a nuisance of herself, you can apply for an anti-harassment order? (if she's the sort to not give up)

Good point Meerka

ignore her