Hi everyone.
Im a mum to 2 young children, my husband seperated from me 2 years ago.ive since got into another relationship and its been going on for just over a year.
We met online had a few dates and everything was going well. I found out that he was still seeing someone at the beginning of the relationship which he kept from me ,he told me it was over a few weeks into the relationship, which is true as she is seeing someone else now. Around the same time I noticed he still had his profile on the dating website and that his picture had changed,i confronted him and he said he must have been hacked. I then found a message on his fb saying when are you going to see your daughter...i confroted him again and he said shes not his, its his ex from a few years ago that bitter that hehad ended it so is saying that hes a dad. She is refusing dna. I said why didt you tell me, he said he didnt want to hurt me over something that may not be true. he wouldnt add me on fb, i thought that was strage, he did eventually after me nagging but he said he didnt want to cause hes in the army and he was scared i would get threats, hes had it before apparently. I saw tinder on his fone, he said he thought it was just like fb, hes deleted it now. Hes always accusing me of wanting to get back with my ex. He saw some messages on my fb from an old flame which were innocent but he accused me of shagging him. These are just some of the things. I have never found any evidence that he has or is cheating on me. I use to check his fone on a daily basis and there was nothing to worry about. Hes changed his password since so i dont anymore.
At the moment he works away so i only see him at weekends but before that we lived together for a few months and he is fine, we got on well. He is fantastic with my children and they love him to bits too. They are 2 and 4. He said he wants us to marry and have a future together. But, that said, i am a paranoid person, i can read far too much into things. This is making me miserable on a daily basis when he isnt here. So im wondering if its best i end things with him . He knows im paranoid and he does reassure me but ive always got that niggle in the back of my mind. Please, any advice from you would help me. Am i just being silly? Should i stick with him and try to sort myself out? Or do it on my own? Thanks in advance.