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New relationship ex won't see DD

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loganberry12 · 16/04/2015 13:43

Some of you may have read my posts on her in the past. Basically my ex left me 3 years ago I was devastated but with time I became strong . I haven't dated until now I met a wonderful man in January who treats me like a princess & we have a fantastic relationship I really think he is my soul mate. Problem is my ex has stopped seeing our DD who is 5 because in his words can't go another weekend hearing about my new fella from our DD basically he's jealous & is putting his own feelings before his DD's . He is ignoring me completely about contact with our DD what do I tell her when she ask why she can't see him I have said he's ill or working but can only go on so long making excuses. She adores her daddy this will break her heart he's such a selfish immature twunt

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loganberry12 · 16/04/2015 13:54

My new partner is very supportive my little girl gets on great with him & his daughter 13 & son 19 who live with him his wife left him for a toy boy two years ago

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Quitelikely · 16/04/2015 14:34

I would give your ex a final chance to step up to the plate.

Send an email so you have proof.

Detail how upset she is that he has suddenly stopped bothering with her. Tell him she misses him and asks for him constantly. Advise him that if he does not contact you within seven days you will assume he cannot put his daughters needs above his own feelings of insecurity and that you will take that to mean he no longer wants to see her.

Advise him if he goes down this route and later decided he has made a mistake he will need to take court action to reinstate contact as you do not want your dd to get hurt by his lack of contact ever again.

This might give him the shock he needs!

loganberry12 · 16/04/2015 14:37

Quiet likely I have done exactly that on Monday he has totally ignored me I gave him till Friday so I will wait & see but to be honest I can't see him answering

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confusedoflondon · 16/04/2015 16:42

I think its very early days for your daughter to meet someone you only met in January anyway but that's just me. It would be far too soon.

loganberry12 · 16/04/2015 17:15

He replied with ..... I'm sure her new dad will be ok for a while. Heartless bitch.

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loganberry12 · 17/04/2015 21:25

Well he's agreed to see his daughter now fortnightly after I told him if he stopped seeing her & then changed his mind he'd need to go to court for future contact with her because I'm sick of him letting her down lets just hope he sticks with this arrangement

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Jackw · 17/04/2015 21:43

Oh well done. Your poor little girl with such a spiteful, vicious man for a father. I hope it works out well for you in your new relationship despite him trying to wreck it for you.

loganberry12 · 17/04/2015 22:18

Thank you jackw my new partner is very supportive & understanding so don't think my ex will wreck it at all but I just want my little girl to be happy & having a relationship with her father is important even though I think he's a complete waste of space she loves him

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