Hurt by daughters remark :-(

[aberdeenkath]

To cut a long story short-
Had a blazing row with daughter (17) today and she made a comment that I found extremely hurtful before she stormed out.
Do I let it lie and accept it was probably said in the heat of the moment or should I ask her to explain why she feels that way about me?
I was in tears all afternoon after her comment as it really touched a nerve.

Would need to know more to give an opinion really.

Depends on what it was, I think. I expect I would let it lie for a bit, maybe a day or so, to see if she comes back of her own accord and apologises for it. After that I would talk to her about it.

Yep, need to know what she said.

There can be painful comments that hurt because they are true, and simply rude ones, and we need to know what she said to give you a response.

We really need to know what she said.

I'm sorry that you have been on the receiving end of a teenage daughter
I'm afraid that it is par for the course... ie pretty normal.
Blazing rows, hurtful insults, about your parenting, bodyshape (if they inherited it) or even breathing!

I'd say it depends on what it was as to how you approach it. If it were along the lines of 'you're a fat cow' I'd come down hard on her about that being an unacceptable and hurtful thing to say. If it was more 'you're so overbearing I can't stand you' I'd talk to her about trying to protect her or whatever after having a good think about whether you are being a bit overly protective/ whatever. If it was along the lines of 'this is why dad left' I'd again come down quite hard on that and tell her you have feelings too and that she had no right to say that etc. What did she say?

How does she feel about you?

Sit down, listen and talk with her. It's difficult when you feel hurt, but you have to keep communicating with one another.

I'm bringing up a four year old and a seventeen year old on my own. For my sanity and theirs; if we've had a bad day, I make sure we find time to talk, explain and to apologise to one another.

Hope you sort it all out with her.

I have two teenage daughters that can sometimes say upsetting things. On reflection there is truth in the comments tho sometimes they can be hard to hear. Could that be a possibility?