So dp and I have always had seperate finances.Together quite a while.Never knew much about relationships or finances as parents didn't have a successful relationship.I always assumed accounts were separate.Anyway I'm in an unhappy relationship and dp has become emotionally abusive and quite controlling in the last number of years.Luckily I have my own salary and house is in both our names.He works away during the week and contributes nothing towards groceries or anything the children may need.he says the children's allowance should be enough to cover it.He earns quite a bit more than me and I know that he has managed to pay off quite a bit on his credit card recently whereas I just have enough money after mortgage,bills and shopping-sometimes not even.Trying to get everything organised over the next few weeks....How best to do it?