Need some perspective

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My husband has been on away with friends and accidentally sent me a selfie of a girl with the message "danger zone". it was immediately obvious to me he had meant to send it on to a friend and the comment was suggesting temptation iyswim
At first he tried to pretend he had sent the message to me intentionally, and that the picture was one that had been sent to him by a mate. However after much complaint about my lack of trust etc, he admitted that the photo had been sent to him by a waitress that he met/exchanged numbers with while she was serving them. He says nothing else happened.
What would you think/do?

Well then it's up to you to decide whether you can live with that or not. If you're ok with the flirting rev and the constant checking you will have to do to make sure it goes no further, that's fine. I think you should be questioning why you would accept that someone thinks it's ok to lie to you like, though. I know it's not black and white, but you are the only one who can decide what you will accept

Sounds creepy. All the lying. All the chasing women.

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Has he let you look at his phone and emails? If he won't, you have your answer.

What makes people think it was more than that?

because his whole attitude/response reeks of lying and covering up. Because he told you you are overreacting - trying to put the blame on you not him. Because married men don't usually go out for the day in a foursome with a friend and 2 girls unless they are hoping to score with one of the girls (and guarantee you he didn't tell them he was happily married). He may not have been unfaithful to you ...yet. He certainly feels he is entitled to look around and see what happens. Worse still, he wants to. Many married people don't actually want to play around. your husband does.

I don't mean to be harsh but you need to look out for yourself here. That means not taking whatever lie or excuse he decides to give you. I would not want to be married to a man who did what you have described in those 2 incidents (even if he has not had sex with anyone else so has technically been faithful). Do you? I think you could do so much better to be honest.

you found it necessary to confront another woman over him? what are you getting out of this relationship?

Would you throw away a marriage and a secure family for our daughter for that? Without attempt to repair the problems?

But you can't "repair" his attitude to women and lying can you?

This is just the latest example of him not giving a fuck that he lies and hurts you, it's far from being the first time.