compliance interview

[happymoocow12]

Hi all. I had a compliance interview today at the local jobcentre where they told me I had been reported for having my boyfriend live me. He doesn't because of his family he is Muslim I am white they don't approve and hes not ment to be going out with me. He comes to see me most days he comes for around 2 hours and then goes back home. I have a dd from a previous relationship. I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant which wasnt planned and we was being carefull but the condom split. If his family ever find out about the baby I dread to think what will happen he will probably be sent over to pakistan. I was totally honest with the officer and told her everything. I'm probably going to get totally flamed for this but all I want is some advice as what to expect now. I'm going to go back to work after I've had baby and it was unfortunate circumstances that have led me to be on JSA. Thank you in advance

What did the advisor at the Job Centre say would happen now?

She didn't say anything just to phone with any queries

And if my circumstances change just to let them know

Oh and something about if there was any evidence to gather there isn't any as I told them the truth.

Hello OP,

My job is as a Welfare Rights Advisor, so I have helped people in similar situations as you have found yourself in.

The things that they (DWP) will be looking for is how much time he spends there (not the misconception that someone can stay, so long as it's less than half the week).

Do you have any shared finances.
His he registered for anything at your address e.g bank, doctors.
Does he keep any of his belongings at your address
Do you go shopping together
Does he share in any of the childcare for your current dd.

Some of the above are quite vague, but you get the gist of what they are looking for. In a nutshell 'is there an overall dependence on each other".

It doesn't sound like you have anything to worry about if he only comes over for a couple of hours a day, but if they decide to sanction you whilst they investigate, then request 'Hardship' payments.

I hope this is of some help.

No shared finances nothing of his registered to my address no belongings except his bike that has a puncture so he hasn't took it. No we don't go out in public in case we are seen together. He doesn't stay over and comes for around 2 hours most daysa

And he doesn't share childcare with dd. Thank you for your advice

what exactly are you getting out of this relationship??

can't be seen in public with him?

so he gets to come to your home and have sex with you and not provide anything in return? No fun outings, no commitment....just two hours a day...

really??? and you are going to bring a child into the world in these circumstances?

Probably just a nosey neighbour reporting it (or a pissed off ex partner?)

It may make things easier and quicker if he can contact them to provide details of where he is registered for all of the above- bank statements, Gp letter saying what address he is registered at and a wage slip if he's working.

I'm not saying they will contact him at home, but if you don't want his family to have any idea, then it might be better for him to be pro-active.

There are some nasty people out there!

P.s if they get the same report from the same person (although they van do this anonymously) then they as the reporter can be prosecuted for wasting the Dwp's time.

Good luck with the new baby as well

What do I get out of this relationship exactly what I want. I don't want to live with him even if this was a choice and we make the relationship nwork because we love each other and the child will b in a happy loving environment with 2 parents that get on extremely well. Its not about sex its just what works for both of us. I like it when he leaves and me and dd get time just me and her. Thank you for the people that have gave me advice