Don't know what to think of lack of interest shown by Inlaws...

[SuzanneSays]

Will try not to ramble too much or drip feed!(or out myself so may change a few details)

We had our first baby using IVF after years of unexplained infertility. DS is a gorgeous, happy and healthy baby of 8 months. We live abroad ( think popular holiday destination in Europe, lots of flights, short flight duration, lovely climate-sorry, not a stealth boast!) and since he was born most of my family have been to visit as they know what a struggle we had and are excited and happy for us (my mum already lives here.)

DH's family otoh have been complete opposite. MIL found out she had cancer during my pregnancy, which was an awful time and very scary for her and for the family. DH travels with work on average two weeks in four ( always home at weekends) and as my due date got nearer tried not to travel too much but still made it over to see his mum to offer support. She flew out just before she started treatment to meet DS when he was a couple of days old which was lovely. She has since completed treatment, and has had good news re treatment working and is quite active again. SIL has not been to visit once, though keeps saying she will but finding excuses not to. She has two teenage daughters who dote on my DH and he has been back to visit them at least twice since my DS was born, even though it wa during a particularly busy time for him travel wise.

MIL has just cancelled her plans to visit at the last minute because she is worried about flight disruptions with recent air traffic control strikes

SIL is trying to get DH to come and visit them in the next few weeks ( we don't have passport yet for DS).

I am really hurt that SIL and MIL have not made any effort with m DS, and quite cross that SIL is trying to get my DH to visit her when she knows he has been ridiculously busy with work and traveling loads so has had really limited time with us recently.

Not sure what my question is really, just need to vent and wonder if I a being silly and over emotional about it all!

It's hard to put this, but your baby is not nearly as interesting to other people is he is to you.
I'm from a very close family , we are spread out over the uk and have a ton of kids between us, but did not go out of our way to visit often when the children were really wee. We saw them as newborns where possible but that was it for the first year or so.
don't feel bad, and congratulations on your baby

Does your SIL work? Is she married? You will be surprised how some husbands have a problem with spending money on traveling (otherwise I would jump on the first plane to Paris to see my sister). It may seem easier on you to see them because your husband does not mind. It is his family.BUT if it is your family (like a brother or sister), your husband would have a lot of objections.

Have you visit his sister( for her birthday or any special event for her and her family) Or have you always came visit to see whole family?

Vivacia- no, it's our family choice how money and free time is spent surely?

Well that's how it works in my relationship and why I suggest your problem doesn't lie with SiL.

As PPs have said it's unreasonable to be annoyed with people for not wanting to visit you abroad.

Other than the usual politeness, suggest leaving handling the relations with the in-laws (his family) to your H. If you feel he is spending too much time/money on visits to them, and/or visiting at inconvenient times, take this up with him.

When he flies over for work, why don't you go? Your baby is 8 months and can travel