So did I overact with DH..should I apologise

[lupo]

Please advise. Dh and I have been going through a bit of a rough patch and he has also been working away abroad, frequently but normally only a couple of nights.

This morning he had to get up at 3am to get a flight from stanstead, and when he woke up he had a 20 min shower which woke ds up. I wasnt happy and started moening at him and told him that next time he had to get up so early his co should put him in hotel night before. HE said I was shouting at him - i wasnt, ds then wanted dh to give him his milk (ds only wants dh in the night)I asked him if he could take 2 mins to do it, so I could get ds back to bed after, he said 'why doesnt ds ever want you, you are his mother and 'if I miss my flight you can bloody well pay for it'. I had to ask dh to feed him quickly as he was screaming for him, he hardly sees him so when he does he wants him.

would you be annoyed if ds had been woken in this way, or should I have kept my mouth shut and not told him to get a hotel next time. should i text and apologise..please help.

We finally got to sleep at 5, dh then phoned at 8, waking me up and said 'as directed, i am phoining you to say i have landed'. he could have texted, he sounded very stroppy

Oh and my DH doesn't know what door handles are for so on his 12 trips in and out of the bedroom each morning it gets highly frustrating

Just read this frumpy: "He showers and shaves before bed now so he can slip about more quietly."

Hi all

Thanks for all your advice on this, I did call him and apologise. I would have rather fed ds myself but the problem I have is ds only wanted his milk from dh and cried and cried and was inconsolable. So I figured that it would be quicker if dh gave him his bottle and soothed him (drinks it in 2 mins flat) so i could get him back to sleep. when i try and do it, if he has seen dh, he will cry and cry for about 2 hours flat and I would have had to hold him in my arms for about two hours.

I didnt want to ask dh as i appreciated he had a flight to catch, but I just thought it would be the quickest option.

ds has been grumpy all day and dh wont be home til late toight, but feel better for apologising and clearing the air. Thanks all again for the advice

Good for you lupo, hope things are calmer today.

SSSandy, I did type more quietly. It is still far from my idea of quiet but I appreciate his efforts . Ever thought about asking your DH to sleep in the shed? I mean, you could even sweep out the dead flies first and IKEA do great garden cushions for sleeping on.....